so i'm transmasc/non binary, and i've recently been moving forward with my transition. i've been working at starbs for about 3 months and most of my coworkers are great with using correct pronouns but customers never pay attention to my pronoun pin which is always right under my name tag. i don't pass as masculine very well and i understand why i'm perceived as a woman, i'm 5'1, not yet on testosterone, and my customer service voice is pretty high pitched, plus i like to wear makeup and generally look kind of feminine sometimes, so i get it. i usually give myself a shitty little five o'clock shadow style mustache with eyebrow gel but obviously i'm wearing a mask at work lol. it just pisses me off when i'm called ma'am (or when creepy middle aged dudes say stuff like honey) because my pronoun pin says he/him and i don't understand if they just can't read or choose to ignore it because they don't understand my gender expression. i'm trying to work on deepening my voice but i've been in customer service for 3 years and my voice has always been super high pitched when i deal with customers so it's a hard habit to start breaking. i talked to my trans coworker and a few trans friends and got mixed opinions on whether it's worth it to correct customers. i'm not sure if i would want to risk dealing with potential transphobia or impolite comments from people who are just trying to order coffee but at the same time i feel like i get hit with a truck every time it happens because i get so dysphoric and i just want the validation of knowing people could perceive me the same as how i feel about myself. it just sucks and it's one of my main motivators to get off my ass and get my HRT prescription because this job sucks bad enough with people quitting left and right i shouldn't have to feel even more stressed because i'm trans and just trying to exist