Made a post a little bit ago about how I’ve only been working here 3 weeks and I already want to quit due to the literal anxiety attacks this job has caused me. I absolutely hate it.
It’s currently 4am and I have work at 8am. I’ve been up all night crying and having an anxiety attack because I do not want to go in at 8am or ever again. I don’t know what to do. I have so many shifts this week and next week that I do not want to go to. I genuinely don’t think I can mentally handle working 2 more weeks, but I don’t want to stop showing up and have people hate me.
I think I’m gonna call out in the morning because my anxiety has kept me up all night, I feel like I’m gonna puke. Do I text my manager that I can’t handle 2 more weeks? What tf do I do? Sorry for the dramatics but I can’t take this job anymore.
luckywaffle465716 points1y ago
If you don’t wanna go in today, I would recommend calling the store and telling them as soon as they open. And tbh you don’t have to give in a two week notice and you can just quit on the spot, but tbh I would recommend it. Typically you would print out a formal two week resignation letter (you can find two week notice letter templates on google to make this easier) and give it to your manager. Texting your manager about your two week notice isn’t really ideal, but I mean it’s honestly up to you.
luckywaffle46575 points1y ago
Also one more thing, you don’t have to tell your manager why you’re leaving either. You could honestly just give them a two week notice with no further explanation as to why you’re leaving. However if you feel comfortable with explaining the matter to your manager, just tell them that you’re not really suited for Starbucks (or something along those lines lol) but you don’t have to go into depth if you don’t want to.
VioletssFeet [OP]1 points1y ago
Thank you for your advice, I really do appreciate it. I stayed up all night til 5am and called my store as soon as they opened to let them know I wouldn’t be coming in today. I then received a very passive aggressive text in our work groupchat about the amount of call ins we had this weekend, but if I thought I could handle coming in, I would’ve. I never call in to any job I have ever had. I think I’m gonna try and tough it out this week and see how I feel, but if it’s gotten no better, I’ll be putting in my two weeks. Thank you for your help.
francescugh3 points1y ago
work gc? is your manager in said gc? because im 99% sure that is strictly against policy
VioletssFeet [OP]1 points1y ago
I just got added since I’m new but yes my manager is in it. Shes needed to redo the schedule a couple times so shes sent to all of us in there
miniinovaa1 points1y ago
What really? My store has a fb group. Not really used for anything 😂
SisterAndromeda200711 points1y ago
You can put in an "effective immediately resignation" and say it's for personal reasons. It is and they can not press. They can not say one bad thing about you and in fact will be considered rehireable. Take care of you. Their store is not going to burn down without you. They will be fine.
VioletssFeet [OP]2 points1y ago
Thank you, if I cannot tough out 2 weeks this may be what I have to do. I would feel incredibly guilty but I’ve never had a job effect me mentally to this point.
SisterAndromeda20076 points1y ago
Don't even feel bad. They don't care about you.
VioletssFeet [OP]4 points1y ago
Like half of me knows that these people just see me as a worker and quite literally would not care if I lived or died but…..the guilt of leaving them short staffed…..I’ve been brainwashed by capitalism
SisterAndromeda20071 points1y ago
I understand. I do. I was definitely there and the only reason that I am not anymore is because I am 35 now and I have seen what it is like when understaffed and it's bad but life goes on and if they can't keep people then they need to change their tune really quickly. If anything, you are helping a movement. Prices keep going up and people are getting paid trash. So, again, please do not feel bad. You're helping. Mark my words, others will quit too.
galactic_markers5 points1y ago
Honestly, I'm gonna get hate for this, but just call them and say your quitting immedietly or ghost them. You've only worked there for a few weeks, this job is NOT more important than your mental health. If the best thing you need right now is to leave, LEAVE. I'm sure for three weeks, you won't even write it on a resume or anything, so please, for your own mental health, just leave.
Ideally, you'd atleast tell them you won't show up for any more shifts so they could find coverage, but if you really just wanna be over with it, ghost them.
Please don't put others over yourself. And honestly, if your that new, you probably wouldn't be needed too much on the floor anyway. Mental health always first.
VioletssFeet [OP]2 points1y ago
Yeah if I leave now I definitely do not care about it going on my resume, so it’s not like I need to maintain a good relationship w them or anything. I would just feel so incredibly guilty leaving them without coverage for my shifts. My mental health is above all, but I would feel so shitty just ghosting. If I still feel this way by the end of the week, I will just put in my 2 weeks and tough it out. Thank you for your advice, I appreciate your reassurance
lexaproloser3 points1y ago
i know you’re worried about feeling guilty. but i have to lay it out: starbucks is a corporation, and we are literally trained to be customer priority. that means, even though your feelings are valid, they don’t mean anything to this company. which sucks. so you don’t owe them literally anything. no one can take care of you more than you can take care of you. so focus on that.
VioletssFeet [OP]1 points1y ago
Ugh I know, part of me knows that this is a corporation that doesn’t give two shits about me or my feelings and the other half of me would feel incredibly guilty leaving my team short staffed when I know they are struggling. I know that is really isn’t my problem but I can’t help but feel bad.
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VioletssFeet [OP]1 points1y ago
Thank you for your reassurance. I’m sorry a job has also effected your mental health so poorly, but I 100% feel you. I didn’t think Starbucks was gonna make me feel this shitty. I don’t plan on using them as a reference since I only worked there for such a short period, so I ended up quitting yesterday on the spot. I no longer feel anxious and I feel free, I hope you do too! Congrats on quitting and doing what is best for you!
jazzysoranio2 points1y ago
1. A proper Two Weeks notice is a professional courtesy and the purpose of to maintain a good relationship with your employer once you leave so that if you ever need them for a job reference or if you ever need to be rehired, that door is still open. If you don’t care about that then it’s not a problem and you can legally quit the day of. The only time this doesn’t apply is if you’re working somewhere under a contract, which, if you’re working in a Starbucks store you’re probably not on a contract. Pretty sure even managers don’t have contracts with the company. Also, I’m assuming you’re in the US? Not sure how it works in other countries. Also, this is not legal advice, just friendly comments.
2. “The number of callouts we’ve had this week” is NOT any of your business or your job to worry about. It’s never the barista’s job to worry about how many people have called out this week. Your job is only to worry about YOU. It’s literally your manager’s job to worry about how many people have called out this week. Your ability to show up for work or not is NOT related to how many other people have called out. If you are sick with a contagious disease or have an emergency situation, that doesn’t change depending upon the level of store’s needs. You’re not somehow less sick because the store needs you more. Those things are unrelated.
3. Similarly, whether your partners will hate you or not for it should have no part in your decision to remain at a job or quit. They are not your family or your friends, they are your coworkers. And if your coworkers are also your friends then they won’t hate you for leaving a job that you hate. Real friends wouldn’t guilt you into staying at a job that is unhealthy. Also, once you quit and never work with these people again why would you care what they think about you if you’re never going to see them again anyway?I promise you, staying there to keep them from hating you won’t do anyone any good. I bet you they would do the same to keep YOU happy.
4. Under normal circumstances I would always recommended having a new job secured first before quitting your current job. But obviously there are also exceptions like if a job is exceptionally bad or dangerous.
VioletssFeet [OP]2 points1y ago
This comment was extremely helpful and reassuring. Since I was here such a short period of time, I don’t plan on putting it on my resume or using them as a reference. I agree with your last point, I’m gonna tough it out as long as I possibly can until I for sure have another job secured. Once I do, I’ll probably just quit immediately. It’s so hard not to care about what others think of me or not feel guilty for leaving them short staffed even though I’ve only known them for 2 weeks, but it is whats best for me. Thank you again.
jazzysoranio2 points1y ago
Absolutely. It would be awesome if we could have that kind of control over our emotions, but we don’t and it usually sucks. But sometimes just knowing it’s okay to let go of feelings can help. It’s okay if they hate you. Let them. And it’s okay if you feel bad about it. Feel bad about it now, and just know you’ll get over it quicker than you think, especially when your mental health has had time to recover from such a traumatizing job and you’re working somewhere much better.
miniinovaa2 points1y ago
You have no obligation to give 2 weeks. Is it nice? Yeah but you don’t have to. I just wouldn’t recommend putting Starbucks on your resume if you quit immediately
rio8envy72 points1y ago
I personally would write up a 2 weeks notice and give it to your SM. It’s more professional than texting. You aren’t required to work during those 2 weeks but it shows that you at least showed some common courtesy instead of just quitting. I mean you can but it may stop you from being able to reapply in the future.
caligirlthrowaway1042 points1y ago
I can totally relate to your post here. When I worked at SB I used to be an opener and would be up all night because I knew when I fell asleep that when I woke up it would be time for work. I used to cry on my way to work, and sometimes on my breaks I’d go out to my car and cry. It did not do my mental health well at all. The biggest relief I had was putting in my two weeks. I was there much longer than you, but it just seemed to get worse for me. If you feel like this only a couple weeks in, I’d suggest getting a new job. Feeling this way is just not good and you will thank yourself for moving on from there. Just remember it is okay to feel how you feel and you gotta do what’s best for you!
VioletssFeet [OP]1 points1y ago
Yeah I feel like this would be a lot less difficult if I had been here longer. Going into my third week and already wanting to put in my two weeks will cause so many people to judge and/or hate me.
caligirlthrowaway1042 points1y ago
Ya I know what you mean. But at the end of the day you gotta do what makes you happy and not worry what other people think. I can bet that so many people working there know what you’re feeling and would understand it. Things have gotten crazy from what I hear and I’m sure they would all also love to quit and move on too. The only one that might be more bothered by it is the SM if they put time/money into training you, but at the end of the day who cares. That money is so tiny compared to what SB brings in that it’s really no big deal. Just remember you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone if you don’t want to, not even the SM. I hope you are able to make whatever decision makes you happy!
Turtleinmypond1 points1y ago
I recommend putting in for a three day break, working until that point and see how you feel after. I felt this way when I first started and honestly a few days away made the difference. I’ve been there 4 months and it’s hard, but it’s gotten way easier.
Flappadingo1 points1y ago
You are barely trained what does 2 weeks do? You aren’t an independent worker. just leave
VioletssFeet [OP]1 points1y ago
I called out today due to an ongoing panic attack and I got a very passive aggressive text about calling out. Although I’m barely trained, we are so understaffed that they throw me on bar or drive thru by myself. Apparently they do need me that badly.
miniinovaa3 points1y ago
I do not mean this in a rude way, but that is not your problem
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sci-fi-lullaby0 points1y ago
Ofcourse they're gonna hate you but who cares? Either suck it up and finish your shifts or quit now and suck it up and let them hate you. It's gonna be hard either way so choose your hard.
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