It’s great to be real friends with everyone you work with, but remember that this is a workplace and everyone there is there for that reason. Can you do your job effectively? Are you polite and friendly with customers and your team?

Your job may be a point of pride, but it is not your identity. If you quit tomorrow, you would still be you. If you never spoke to anyone at this workplace again, you would still be you.

Their opinion of you is valuable because you value it. Before now it didn’t,and long after now it won’t matter at all.

Know that you are valuable with or without that approval. You have worth with or without that job. Do your best because it’s worth doing something well. Take constructive criticism with patience. Don’t tolerate abuse.

You got this 😉

Realize they all feel the same! Everyone just wants to be accepted and validated; seen and heard. If you feel like they’re judging your performance then do your best to show that you are excited to learn and welcoming to coworkers who want to help you (people like helping people and feeling useful). Also accept that sometimes you will upset them but what matters is how quickly it can be either forgotten due to irrelevance or resolved, and a lot of the time the resolution is a simple “sorry guys” just an acknowledgment of whatever happened. The more comfortable you get the less you’ll need that constant reassurance

If you keep feeling like you don’t get along with your coworkers then definitely transfer

If a coworker doesn't like me, I like myself enough to realize that they're stupid for not liking me. And that makes me feel validated.

They’re not my friends fuck them. They don’t like me? What are they gonna do about it? My job is secure without their approval.

Granted my current store seems to like me a lot but when I first transferred there they all hated me. My last store seemed to never grow too fond of me. I’m very direct, come across as bossy and I have been told I am “a very weird strange man”. I can’t keep up conversations with people I don’t have a preexisting rapport with. If someone tells me about their emotional problems I often times have no response or at least no idea how to comfort them. My voice is also completely monotone. My brains are also jelly in that environment so I’m not great at my job.

So I’m used to being hated for both valid and invalid reasons. Whatever. My bosses never had enough of a problem with me to write me up. That’s all that matters. I get my validated from myself. I like having friends don’t get me wrong but I don’t need validated from others because they’ve all got problems too. Everyone is kinda annoying: you me and Dupree. If someone dislikes me it might even be completely valid but it’s not my problem. I’m just there to get paid.

I don’t know if you can just choose to adopt that mentality though. It was given to me by God and through God all things are possible but I acknowledge you probably just can’t immediately change your whole outlook.

At work and in life, my best advice is that what others think of you is none of your business. Of course do your best, be friendly, team player, all that. But you can't be everyone's cup of tea, so dont worry about it.

It’s a job. Do your best, be your best, but you can’t get along perfectly with anyone, so you’re bound to interact with people who don’t like you. I don’t like everyone I work with…. Some I just work well with and others it’s more of a struggle to work with. But that’s different individually.

Also unless you have solid complaints about your performance, who cares? So you aren’t doing something the exact way another partner would, doesn’t mean it’s incorrect.

We used to have a coworker that had pretty significant mental health issues. From day 1 she was straight up and just told us “I have BPD and need constant reassurance that you don’t hate me”
So I always made sure to go out of my way to be extra nice to her.

Don’t go in there expecting that everyone will like you, that’s ludacris. You will encounter people in life that don’t like you for one reason or another, or for no reason at all. And that’s OK.

Not sure if this is your first job or not, but needing constant reassurance is going to get on people’s nerves. If you have any concerns about your job performance I’d suggest that you bring it up privately with your supervisor.

Just do your best at what you do and try to be a good coworker. I’m sure you’re doing fine!

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