Yesterday, one of our baristas didn’t show up to her shift. This is super unusual bc she never misses shifts. I texted/called her and nothing went through- her phone was dead. Her mother called the store about a hour after her shift was supposed to start and asked if she had made it to work, we told her that she hadn’t and she immediately started sobbing. None of us knew what was happening so we continued working. 2 hours later we got a call. She had gotten into a car accident. It was super icy on the freeway and she completely slid off of the road. And just like that, she’s fucking gone. Forever.
When someone you work with dies, it’s incomparable to anything else. I see her everyday. I have spent so many hours with her and we have become such great friends. She was an opener, and i almost always came in at 5am, so we spent most of the mornings alone together. She called us the ‘dream team’ :( We spent Christmas morning together. And the next day she’s gone forever.
I just feel so helpless and so angry. I feel so bad for her mother i can’t even imagine what her family is going through. We closed the store today but i don’t even know what to do next.
I am just so heartbroken and I’m wondering if anyone else has lost a coworker. I don’t even know what to do or how to feel
paigemclachlan197 points1y ago
I am so so sorry to hear this ❤️ sending you guys all my healing and good thoughts
No_Substance_3931168 points1y ago
I am really sorry for your loss.
I worked with a guy who had previously worked as an EMT and I think he never was really okay after everything he saw. He committed suicide and it was extremely hard for my team when we heard the news. He had started a new family too, and I couldn't imagine the heartbreak and grief they went through.
We had a gathering at the park and everyone had food and shared stories of good times they had with him. People who were on vacation came back early when they heard the news, and we even had a grief counselor come into the store for a couple of days.
It is never easy and as others have said, please take the time you need.
BeardiesRule11296 points1y ago
I’m so sorry for your loss. Why the fuck is Starbucks making people come in in super icy conditions? It’s time to unionize. Fuck this company.
zss3zss3zss333 points1y ago
this company is trash, quit and work at a local coffee shop if you can. woried at sbux for 3 years and it was the worst experience of my life. hope her family sues them
chellichelli25 points1y ago
IME local/indie shops still want you at work in a blizzard even when the governor says “essential personnel only”.
ogres-anonymous-80 points1y ago
maybe not the most appropriate/sympathetic comment in the world considering the content of the post...
xmlcx1 [OP]90 points1y ago
No they’re 100% right. 2 days ago, my other coworker got into an accident bc of the icy roads and still showed up to her shift. The day my coworker died, we had 2 ppl call out because the roads were way too icy. The weather conditions were dangerous and it’s ridiculous that we were even open
Jessicap140083 points1y ago
She was on her way to work in these icy conditions and lost her life. Lets get angry. No one should have to risk their life for starbucks.
soyboysucc46 points1y ago
It’s entire appropriate to bring up the fact that the corporation we work for puts profit over peoples’ lives because it directly results in shit like the tragedy op described
BeardiesRule11213 points1y ago
I literally just totalled my car on Christmas because of black ice, I almost died as well so I think my comment is very appropriate and sympathetic. I’m one of the lucky ones.
canidieyet_6 points1y ago
I slid on black ice the day after thanksgiving. Thankfully nobody was injured and the damage to the cars was minimal, but it’s dangerous out here
the___squish88 points1y ago
I’m very sorry for your loss. This is a reminder to everyone that if you feel unsafe on your way to work, turn around or don’t go. A job is never worth your life. A reminder to managers too to honor people’s uncomfortability driving to work in winter and in storms.
Your friends, family and co workers care about you! One shift is just one shift.
user17838284928958 points1y ago
TW: death, suicide
I am so sorry. I understand this pain all too well.
When I was working at Chick-fil-A, two guys died within 3 months of one another. One, in a tragic motorcycle accident outside of our store, and the other, his best friend, committed suicide shortly there after. It’s true what you said - the pain is unimaginable because you spend so much time together. We were more than coworkers, we were friends. We had friendship bracelets. Our owner provided free therapy in store for three months following but I ended up quitting. I couldn’t stand being in that space without them. It just felt so wrong. That was almost 4 years ago and it’s still the worst thing that’s ever happened in my life. It was so traumatizing.
Your pain is 100% valid. She was your friend. Just know that however you grieve is okay. You don’t have to stay strong. I will be thinking of you. I am so so sorry.
Jessicap140053 points1y ago
So sorry OP for you and dream teams loss and the partners family ): 💗 Maybe your SM will let you guys honor her in some way? Name her favorite drink after her ? And definitely take some time off if you need it.
xKatastrophex49 points1y ago
I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you love and prayers. ):
CapableArtist12328 points1y ago
Oh my gosh, I have no words. Reading this almost made me cry, I’m so sorry this happened.
HydingSuspence24 points1y ago
My partners at starbucks are the best people I've ever worked with. The only people that have made coming to work worth it just to see them. I'm so sorry you lost a dear friend and I hope you find a way to push through it
k8mitchy17 points1y ago
Never a coworker, but a classmate. It’s super tough, but please allow yourself to feel whatever emotions you produce. Take all the time you need to heal and recover. So so so sorry for your loss and sending you and your partners condolences! <3
curiouspeach2617 points1y ago
I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine how it feels to lose a good coworker and friend like that.
chellichelli16 points1y ago
This happened and my store once, several years ago. The grief is incomparable. I hope your DM takes care of your store. There should be time off (with catastrophe pay) and grief counselors available. (IN STORE, not just someone saying “lol just contact Lyra!”)
xmlcx1 [OP]11 points1y ago
Yeah we’re gonna have grief counselors in the store and we’re closed for the next couple of days. We’re holding a party to celebrate her life tomorrow
myredditusername91914 points1y ago
my old store had a partner die after I left. it was really sad. she was really sweet, 19 years old, and loved jesus. she got in a car accident with no seatbelt on and was dislodged from her vehicle and died. it was extremely sad.
ogres-anonymous14 points1y ago
I haven't lost a coworker but I have lost friends, and there's not much advice to give besides get grief counseling when you feel up to it. take your personal days and just do what you have to do until you feel a little less shell shocked. I'm so sorry for your loss
GinaMohundro10 points1y ago
This is something no one ever prepares for and it’s almost guaranteed to happen. I’m sorry this happened and I’m sorry it was preventable. I hope you guys get the support you need during this time. My family just lost my mother in law on the 18th so I’m having some existential questions bubble up currently.
I had a coworker not show up for his closing shift and of course we were all talking trash (pretty light heartedly, not just being hateful lol) and his girlfriend was away on a cruise with her friends. We kept trying to get in touch with him and… just nothing. Very weird. It turns out that when he was in his kitchen, he somehow fell just right to crack his head on the kitchen counter and bleed out. Our DM was on vacation and never contacted the store even after he heard the news. Our SM was already dealing with anxiety and she ended up getting a little too into her benzodiazepine medication. Fortunately she didn’t end up getting strung out or having an accident or anything but it definitely worried me and some of the partners during all this.
kermitsewerslide42010 points1y ago
hey op, i lost a coworker in july. please look at my post history & dm me, i’m at work for the next five hours. i’m here for you.
W33dprinxess10 points1y ago
Sending hugs ♥️♥️♥️ so sorry to hear
Jared-A19 points1y ago
Just found out this was close to my store. So sorry to hear. R.I.P. Sending all my support for a fellow partner ❤️.
sdmh778 points1y ago
When I was a barista a shift supervisor passed. She had something wrong with her intestines. She was engaged and part of a group that had been there a couple of years. There was a divide of ‘we knew her’ and ‘we knew her from work’. The irony is she didn’t necessarily like all the ‘we knew her’ bc they would not come in or not clean. This lady was meticulous - so she didn’t necessarily like them. What I think was lost at the time was keeping the team together - we were in between managers so no one kept the team together. Also - there is a way to get support for counseling as a barista. Also - you can go through Cares Solace (it’s covid money for mental health but a good source). Make sure to take care of yourself.
Kohtako957 points1y ago
I am so fucking sorry for your loss 🖤
marigshu6 points1y ago
I am so sorry.
champagneandpringles6 points1y ago
Omg my condolences to you and the family. This is horrible.
Bubblebutt2175 points1y ago
At my first store this happened. We put a partner apron with her name on it in a shadow box with some of her favorite flowers. It didn’t bring her back, but it helped those that were grieving remember her. I’m sorry for your loss 💕
oooortcloud5 points1y ago
I’m so sorry. Don’t hesitate to take advantage of the mental health benefits - grief is so hard to get through, talking to someone really, really helps. I’m so sorry for your loss ♥️
ThankfulWonderful4 points1y ago
Your store manager can have a Lyra councilor engage with your store to do a special session. There are options for your store to speak with a trauma/grief therapist to help you process this horrible situation as individuals and as a team.
Please ask your store manager about this if they haven’t already gotten that ball rolling.
I am beyond sorry for your loss. Chilling because when I opened in Christmas Day- it had been an ice storm and freezing rain. I made sure we were all safe coming in- it sinks into my bones that we could lose someone just like how you did.
Good luck. <3
honourarycanadian4 points1y ago
I’m so sorry that this happened. If you need help please remember that there’s EAP and your six sessions can be used for grief counseling. Please take care of yourself too.
Necessary_Low9394 points1y ago
Very unexpected especially a hardworking partner. Rip
lordthangsy4 points1y ago
Wow, she seemed like she was loved by everyone, condolences
maddawgg7103 points1y ago
I heard about this today💔rest in peace beautiful girl.
And yes I’ve lost a coworker before ): he was only 23 years old it’s a horrible feeling
Praxlyn3 points1y ago
I’m so sorry :(
ttime462 points1y ago
my coworker and best friend, a fellow barista was hit by a car walking home from a closing shift over a year ago and is still in a coma from it, a few weeks ago it was super wet on the roads on my way to open in the morning and i flipped and rolled my car, lucky i survived and i’m fine but all i could think about was my friend and how our store was gonna lose two baristas to car accidents in just over a year. it’s a horrible feeling and having to work where you saw them almost every day makes it so much worse, i’m here for you and i hope you guys make it through this alright
VentiSARnoH202 points1y ago
This year i lost a fellow partner from another store where I only worked one day back in 2019. he was a great person, I don’t know the details of his passing. but it just hit hard since we’d talk basically everyday. we spoke the night before his passing and it was strange when he didn’t reply the next day. went to his social media and there were comments about it. I never really processed his passing and will forever regret not hanging out with him or going to his funeral.
amiee12342 points1y ago
I worked at a coffee shop & one of my coworkers (and friends) died extremely suddenly last march. It’s never an easy thing, but I felt that it really brought the team together, we held a store memorial where we had pictures, candles and all just spent time together telling stores we had of him. It felt nice. We had a small memorial for him in the cafe for a few months after. A picture, electric candle and flowers we would refill every couple of days. It was hard when customers would ask about him, but the support from our regulars that new him really showed us how much of an impact he had made. I also reached out to his family and attending the service helped with closure. Be gentle with yourself. Take some time off if you need it. Lean on your store for support. Feel lucky you got to know her. Think of her often and visit her grave. Keep her memory alive. I know that it hurts and it’s so hard to understand why things happen, but you will heal and it will stop hurting. You will be left with wonderful memories of a wonderful girl. Im sorry for your loss, & Rest In Peace.
MrsClaireUnderwood2 points1y ago
I have lost a friend and coworker like this, yes.
When I was 18, I moved from my home state to be with my boyfriend-at-the-time and got hired at Starbucks in a different state. Pretty soon after getting hired I met someone who would become my best friend. It was important to me because they were \*my\* friend, someone I had found and built a relationship with after moving in with my boyfriend and sort of joining his world.
In 2014, I got a call that my friend and coworker had died driving on the 405 at 4 in the morning on their way to open. I never really got the story about what exactly happened and by this time I had moved states once again.
It's impossible to do an accounting of everything you two probably shared together, let alone convey to us the meaning of those shared moments. All I knew when I heard the news about my friend was that I had to fight the crushing force on my chest and try to stop the flood of memories and shared moments that defined so much of who I am until I could grieve away from others. Our relationship went far beyond mere coworkers - this wasn't someone I simply forgot when I clocked out until I saw them the next shift. At that point in time for me they helped me with so many things as a young adult.
I'm sorry for your loss.
blighty12 points1y ago
I'm so sorry. Life is so strange and random and unpredictable. I'm sorry for all the friends and family who love her. You sound like a good friend. I hope you are as ok as possible.
Overall-Diver-68452 points1y ago
I am so so so sorry 😭
alh1st2 points1y ago
I’m so sorry for your loss. Relationships with coworkers hit different. You build such a tight bond and work through so much together. I love all my partners sm and they’re all special in a different way. I hope you find peace 🖤
MonstrousGiggling2 points1y ago
Damn dude, this makes me want to cry, I'm imaging if this happened to one of my co-workers and it's breaking my heart.
I'm so sorry for your loss OP, I hope you have a loving support group to help you through this. Sending you lots of love.
If you need to cry, cry. If you need to shout, shout. You are human and your emotions are going to be going wild right now, or your response might even be to go numb. Please see a therapist or counselor if you need to, there's is absolutely no shame in seeking out a grievance counselor to help you through this.
verdeuce2 points1y ago
This is my worst nightmare. I’m so so sorry you and your partners are going through this. Your dm and sm will set up Lyra sessions with you all this week or next. I know it’s not much but it’s something. Sending you all lots of hugs <3
Maleficent_Fact36112 points1y ago
I’m so sorry❤️ sending love to you, your store and her family🙏🏾
Dismal_Beginning_1992 points1y ago
I am so sorry my condolences we are here for you of you need it
smaidit2 points1y ago
this really sweet girl at my store that i had known for 5 years passed in her sleep 3 months ago. i was away on vacation and when i came back my other partners broke the news. i was so shocked, upset and hurt that everyone told me two weeks after. i had bad anxiety for a week and it just hurt so bad. she was the bread winner for her family too and that just hit harder. i’m so sorry for your loss i hope you and everyone heal soon 💕
crunchycookie282 points1y ago
I’m so sorry for your loss. Will be praying for you and the rest of the partners
Levinem7172 points1y ago
I’m so sorry, I hope you and your partners take care of each other during moments like this. What a tragedy.
assyladawn2 points1y ago
I am so so so very sorry for your loss. 💔
Multihued_Minutiae2 points1y ago
Lo siento, I'm really sorry 😔
mhgl2 points1y ago
I’ve lost numerous coworkers over the years but in my industry we just keep moving. We’ve never closed down or anything.
Usually we’ll just have a meeting and advise everyone how to contact their EAP and to take any time off that they need. I’ve never seen anyone actually take any time though.
e_milywll2 points1y ago
I am so sorry to hear about this. I can't find the words to say, I cannot imagine how hard this is. Sending love to everyone affected by the loss.
Select_Discount_9302 points1y ago
Sorry, for your loss
SensitivePlatypus982 points1y ago
I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending love and hugs, and I hope you, her family, and your coworkers can heal from this❤️
mmmmercutio2 points1y ago
I’m really sorry for your loss.❤️
Immediate-Shame-19212 points1y ago
i’m so so sorry. please take care of yourself :( praying for you and your team ❤️❤️❤️
MaralosaKingdom2 points1y ago
Read this just as am I about to go into work and this broke my heart. So sorry for your loss. Sending well wishes your way and may she Rest In Peace. ❤️
sero50742 points1y ago
Oh my god… I’m so sorry. May she Rest In Peace and sending my thoughts to your team.
paratha_aur_chutney2 points1y ago
i am so sorry for your loss op \*hugs\*
rednick9532 points1y ago
I’m so sorry for your loss.
shosh_c2 points1y ago
I’m so sorry for your loss
cpv_912 points1y ago
Wow this is so sad. I completely understand how you feel as I have spent countless hours with my opening partners/friends and would feel their loss in the same way.
Sending you and her family thoughts and prayers of peace and love during this very difficult time. May you find comfort in the happy memories of your shared times. 💔
Danny_myrillo1 points1y ago
I lost a coworker when I worked at Kroger. She was so sweet and kind and always made my day better. We worked in different departments so we didn’t get to talk a lot. The last day I saw her she asked for some help moving a case of wine into the locked gate in the back. She complained to me about how the workers at deli were being really mean to her and made her go all the way across the store to use the restroom that was there instead of the one that was closer (said that it was for customers only), it wasn’t. I helped her and she was so grateful. It was literally nothing. It was no problem at all. Super easy and she was just so grateful, she said she wouldn’t have been able to do it without my help. It just made me so upset when she said no one else would help her. She was a bit on the older side and Kroger had her doing this all on her own. I was really glad I was able to help her and make her days better. I miss her dearly, she died near the beginning of Covid and I wasn’t giving any time to process. I thought they were joking at first. But no, just had to carry on my Solo closing shift like nothing happened. She gave me a huge wok as a gift and every time I use it I think of her. I just know she’s in a better place now.
JavaWasp1 points1y ago
I am so sorry 😞
Cool-Condition-97361 points1y ago
Partner at my store was shot walking home from work. Only 20 years old, with so much better to do with their life. The day of the memorial service (no public funeral due to Covid) my wife and I had to put our dog down, then I had to work and then rush to the service.
I only say all this to tell you to not let the DM or any other corporate stiff pretend like they give a shit cause they don’t. Talk (or don’t if that’s how you cope) with other partners you feel close to. They sent us “grief counselors” who were horrible corporate shills. Take care of YOU first!
DepressoEspresso921 points1y ago
I’m so sorry
starrrrrfruittttt1 points1y ago
I am so sorry you lost a partner and friend. Without my coworkers I would literally off myself. I just moved to a new state and these are the only people I talk to since covid is still rampaging, and without this socialization w them I would go absolutely bat shit crazy. This is one of the best service jobs I’ve ever held because of my partners, I do not work here to make coffee, or to deal w our shitty customer. I simply still have this job because of them. I hope you and your partners heal :((( I’m so sorry this happened life is v shitty.
AuntieRia11281 points1y ago
I am so sorry, I can feel your loss in reading your words, she was a great friend it is clear and I am so deeply saddened for you and everyone else who’s lives she touched. Guys, no job is worth risking your life, if it’s icy, snowy or flooded, please stay home. Starbucks will survive without you, your life is too precious.
GRXPEBXPE1 points1y ago
Crazy how i just made a post asking if i should call out due to weather. Imma take this as a sign
Dr_mombie1 points1y ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. Perhaps you guys could talk to her mother and come up with ideas for charity donations to honor her life.
A few ideas that come to mind are: donate January tips (with management approval of a collection box in the back) to the make a wish foundation in honor of the dream team/person or something like that. Or find another charity that lines up with her values, interests, and beliefs. Animal shelter supply drive? Great time of year to do that since stores are trying to get rid of overstock on cheap blankets and Christmas themed stuff. School supplies for kids? Canned food for the food pantry?
Have a plaque made for inside the store In Loving Memory of this team member. Trophy shops can do professional looking ones. Put an In Loving Memory flyer with her photo in the DT window, so her regulars and favorites are made aware.
MawcDrums1 points1y ago
Stay home and safe when the weather is terrible people, don't let them pressure you to come in, your job isn't worth your life.
ConfusionDisastrous81 points1y ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. I know that your store team becomes family. It's like losing a loved one. A neighboring store in my district recently lost a barista to a car accident. It was heartbreaking. I interviewed her and offered her a job. Hopefully your dm with be conscious of the heartbreak and make it so everyone can pay their respects. Keep your chin up.
ConfusionDisastrous81 points1y ago
Also, your PRM should be there to support you. There should be grief counseling available. Lyra is an incredible benefit and I highly recommend using it to work through your feelings.
KatieEdwards951 points1y ago
I am so sorry to hear that. Praying for you, your store and her family.
martinifather1 points1y ago
my condolences ❤️ I can’t imagine this pain
Karona241 points1y ago
Sorry for your loss & in my prayers
missthemac1 points1y ago
One of my old coworkers has cancer, they’re only 20. I think about them all the time, they stopped working a couple months ago due to treatment. I’m so sorry for your loss, sending love
Chemical-Advantage411 points1y ago
That is so startling and sad. I hate that had to happen i hope she rests in peace
Markedsoultheif1 points1y ago
We lost a partner in my store under similar circumstances. And it’s hard. Reach out to your SM or DM and see if they’ll bring in grief counselors for you guys. We put up a sign with her numbers on it and put out a book for people who knew her to write their favorite memories of her in. And we gave it to her family at the memorial service. I’m so sorry for your loss
lenagracep1 points1y ago
Sending you guys love and support. So sorry for your loss. :(
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