What are some other examples of things that they took offense too? Maybe the people who complained recently lost a loved one just before the holiday so your comment might have hurt their feelings unintentionally but thats not your fault either way. I would have agreed with your comment.

Unfiltered talking is one thing. I have partners who i work with that list out what they are making or their to do list over and over and over so they can focus. I have partners I work with that ramble about who knows what over the headsets whenever we don’t have a car. I have partners with me who sing and dance and hum. It’s no big deal.

Your comment was mean. Not having family for the holidays hurts for a lot of people. And they clearly don’t feel comfortable approaching you since your request is for them to directly tell you that something hurt them and to not do so. They did the right thing in talking to a manager and having the manager have that conversation.

If a drink is wrong we fix it. If a customer has lost it and is just complaining even though the drink is 100% correct we fix it. You can ask clarification on what was wrong and have the bar partner fix it without throwing them under the bus. “Of course we can fix it, what was wrong with it?” works just as well for the info you need without blaming another partner who might not have screwed up at all.

Part of ownership is actual ownership. Your behavior
is making others uncomfortable and they are communicating that. You now know this hurts people. You have been directly asked to stop. What else do you want your partners to do?

Situations like these, I usually take it as a lesson to remember. Trust me I’m also a person who have unfiltered comments, I am also very sensitive…. but overtime I’ve learned how to keep things to myself or give myself second thoughts before saying something. For example, you learn that someone in your team is too sensitive when it comes to uncomfortable topics, maybe put yourself in their shoes. What if that partner doesn’t have a family to spend christmas with? some people dont have anyone to celebrate holidays with and it’s just heartbreaking to think about it. Saying “Don’t they have families to spend time with?” must’ve hit hard on that person being alone for christmas.


Also if no one wanted to say something, probably because they didn’t want to appear rude towards you, so best solution was to have someone have a talk with you with respect. Your manager sounds like a nice person to talk with.

Honestly, it's not their job to teach you how to act at work.

Unfortunately the only solution I found is to not speak much at work, and assume everyone is sensitive or having a bad day.

Seems ridiculous but there’s a lot of younger people who work retail and fast food, and they can be cliquey b/c they’re young and target people they don’t understand and or don’t like.

I don’t think u are being mean. Some people are just sensitive. They’re little snowflakes. I guess u just needa keep to urself.