This. Sub.

You are not alone. You keep being you, and you will find your people. Just because you don’t click with some, doesn’t mean you won’t. You are beautiful and you are loved. The fact that you can find solace in a sub like this one shows that you will find your “in person” tribe, just keep yourself open to new people and connections. 😊

I’m in the same boat and I feel so alone. Sometimes I’m on the floor when literally everyone else working is making plans to hang out later that day and I’m just sitting there like chopped liver. Everyone also voted for each other for POQ so I’m never in the running for that despite working 30 hours a week busting my butt. I have some coworkers I gel with but we rarely work together and honestly some days I just want to transfer

Me!!!!!!!😭😭😭😭😭 word for word. Thanks for sharing. Was really broken about this today too. I feel so understood! Dm me if you want to chat more or we could all make an outcast barista group chat hehe

Fellow barista here. I feel as though I'm in a similar situation. There's a huge age gap at my store and I find myself in between the teenagers and the partners over 30. I've been feeling extremely left out on the floor and been feeling lonely. I don't have any advice sadly but at least you can know you're not the only one who feels like this. ❤️

This is what I’ve been feeling the last few weeks. You’re not alone and you are good enough 🤍 It sucks but sometimes we either have to make piece with being alone, change ourselves and be more extroverted to fit in, or just hope one day who we are already is enough for those people to come into our lives. Don’t change yourself for others because if you’re pretending the friendship won’t even be real.

I understand where you're coming from but as my momma always told me you aren't at work to make friends you're there to make money. Sure making friends is a perk but it's like that at lot of places. Some people click and some people don't. Doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you and doesn't mean you should feel bad about it. I work with a lot of young kids at Starbucks and I'm 30, sure I have fun with the kids at my job but I would be a weirdo to chill with 17 year olds outside of work. Some of the oldest people at my job are still only 21 and it just doesn't mesh well with hanging out outside of work. Don't take it personally but do try to have fun at work but don't worry about them being apart of your outside life. Please keep your head up I am sure you are awesome. Cherish the two friends you have made cause that's still a win! And with so much turn over your best friend might be the next to get hired. ❤️

One thing I’ve learned about this job is you can be really good friends with someone but once they leave you will never hear from them again , I find temporary friendships exhausting

Ive def been in your shoes! Sometimes its hard to show your personality at work. Being kind is wonderful, but you can be bland and kind.

How do your coworkers interact with each other? Are they always talking about tiktoks or school or plans? Do you have any similar interests or hobbies you could join them with? Sometimes an invite or even saying "I really want to do this but no one to do it with" can go along way to show people that you want to connect with them.

Another tip is to ask each person if they need anything before you clock out. Most times they all say no, but every time you ask, they will appreciate it.

We are not going to vibe with everybody and that’s OK. Consider them all as individuals that you might meet in another situation. Are there any qualities that you appreciate in them that you have something in common with? Would you be friends with any of these people in other circumstances? I know it can feel lonely to be at work with people you don’t click with or maybe you just feel like an outsider. I would bring my best self forward, focus on customer connections, smile, be friendly, let go of the idea that because you work with someone they automatically owe you friendship or are worthy of *your* friendship. Get off fucking social media, or simply don’t follow people from work. Find a hobby, look to meet people who enjoy things you like to do. And give yourself your own title. I used to joke I was the COQ because I preferred to get off the floor to do dishes in the back (cleaner of the quarter). When you realize that the only opinion that matters about you is yours you can build up from there. I hope it gets better!!

I feel the same way. I just recently moved to the town from East Tennessee. Which is across the countryThis is my first Job, I’m currently 15 Years of age. I typically work with both the Morning and Evening crew in the same shift. So I (hoped I’d) get to interact and build friendships considering I know nobody here. And after two months of working, it’s pretty much the same. The only real connections I build are with customers. I will say though, I find the Morning Crew folks alot nicer than the Evening crew, as the Morning folks are mostly Mature Adults, and the Evening folks are pretty much Highschoolers. With the evening folks, I sense that they have their own “Bubble” that I’m just not in. I interact with them, yes, for questions and guidance, But other than that it feels they just shut me out. Morning crew is a bit different, I don’t really sense a “Bubble” they have, aside from a few of em being really good friends, but they’re all really helpful and kind. But, It’s still the same story. I can’t really build any sort of connection with them.

Another thing with the Highschoolers, It may just me being paranoid, but im like 99% sure i’ve heard a few of them talking about me whilst I was on the floor, or doing something in the background. Sounds crazy, but It’s true. Plus i’m homeschooled, so of course that doesn’t help at all.

At this point, I’m just to terms to the fact that at this rate, My only real connections will be with the Customers, Which isn’t really a bad thing, I’d just like friends that I can actively hang out with and what not, y’know?

On top of that, I also find myself screwing up quite a bit. Whether it be getting distracted, or just messing up a procedure. Of course i’m new, so that’ll work its way out, but it still sucks.

Just my personal experience. I hope it doesn’t go on. I feel like shit every time I go to work because I don’t really have anything to look forward to other than payday.

You are definitely not alone. I'm not particularly "hated" on, and have gone out with a few coworkers once, but the few people I would love to actually hang out with outside of work don't seem to reciprocate the feeling. One of them flaked on me big time when we planned to go to a pride parade in a nearby city, so spent pride alone. A few have a group chat and talk on Snapchat and Instagram but I was never included. It sucks being in the in-between. I have very few friends outside of work,so my circle is incredibly small. I empathize, and wish I had any advice for us in-betweeners. Good luck, and know that work shouldn't be your life anyway. I hope you find a way to feel less lonely 💓

Omg I totally understand where you’re coming from!! I started out as an AM partner and felt this way every day, dreading coming to work. When my manager switched me to nights everything changed, I felt so much more comfortable! I’m not sure if you’re AM or PM or what your availability looks like but something as little as that can change so much! Hang in there!

I totally feel this! Im so out of place at my sbux and it makes the job not so super enjoyable. There’s a few ppl I consider friends but majority of the others are so bitter towards me which I get so confused about because I’ve done nothing. Perhaps it’s apart from not being from the area/ diff life experiences

A group chat would be awesome for that

i feel exactly the same way. i’m sorry ur going thru this too but also i’m weirdly glad i’m not alone ?

Okay this was my personal experience, with the added stress of a shift seeming to be out to get me because I called her out for trying to speak over LGBT partners when she is straight.
This job is actually why I became unaliving myself obsessed, and I ended up getting fired for it.