I wish the groomers at my store who hangout and get drunk with minors could see this post 💀 it’s literally the cringiest thing ever because they are shift supervisors.

I'm only 20 and id feel weird hanging out with someone under 18. I could never understand why people in their 20s or 30s would wanna hang out with teens.(other than for bad reasons.)

i’m an underage partner and 100% agree. i only hang out with my adult coworkers outside of work in a group setting and never 1 on 1 for this exact reason

bruh i’m glad i’m not the only one who notices this ☠️ i made sure to step in REAL quick once i started working there and saw partners/customers hitting on the high school baristas. NOT IN MY STORE

I just want to add please also step in to help younger partners who might be getting harassed or targeted by older customers. There are way too many men in their 50's and 60's who think it's ok to flirt with a sixteen-year-old because they threw $5 in the tip jar.

I had a friend who worked at another store and she was groomed by a partner. The day she turned 18 he asked her out and a year later they were married. In contrast, there is a partner at my store who some of the minors thought didn’t like them, but I later realized he intentionally keeps himself more distant from them because he is literally ten years older than them. I have major respect for him both as a barista and a person in part because of this. He is nice and stuff but does not try to be friends with the minors or encourage them to tell him weird shit. That’s the sort of stuff I appreciate. I don’t care about hearing relationship and marriage problems and you shouldn’t want advice from a child

I (17) smoked weed with my (23) year old coworker who then sleep with my Manger for better hours and pay.
Also my Manger has something going on with the auditors so they ignored the fact that black mold is everywhere.

that said, you can be of age and be groomed. Shout out to my old manager who loved having the 18-19 year old girls at her house

i see the minors at my store like my little siblings, they’re so awkward and funny

Had this happen to me at my old job. I was 18 but still in high school. He was 25. Sucks.

Oof. I’m significantly older than the majority of my coworkers at Starbucks. We follow each other on social media. 😳 but I feel like I’m old enough to be their mom. (In most cases I am closer in age to their parents) I am for sure not grooming them. But I love how socially aware they are. And I learn a lot from them.

That said, I can see how it could be problematic real fast.

Only ever hang out with the kiddos I work with outside of work when multiple coworkers get invited to something like say a high school grad party. Otherwise, I’m literally a married individual and a parent and have a whole different job, life, etc outside of work and I’m not an age appropriate *outside of work* friend. Sorry guys! :(

Thank you!!!! This needed to be said! I’m in my early 20’s and sometimes I hear the high schoolers chatting about normal high school stuff then it gets into rated R stuff and I just politely remove my headset or tune it out, but some of my coworkers jump into the convo about things that really shouldn’t be talked about. And it’s one think if it’s a 19 year old talking about this stuff with a 17 year old, but some of these coworkers are 25+ and it just feels so gross!!!! You don’t need to be talking about adult fun time 👀 with the 16 year old dude, I don’t care if your both girls, it’s wrong and gross!

I’m willing to talk about pg things with my coworkers (all of them I’m more strict tho around the youngsters) like “what did you do last weekend?” “I went on a date! We saw this movie!” “Was it a nice movie?” Normal things but then one of the other high schoolers will jump in and ask more questions about who they went on the date with, how long they have been together, and it slowly gets more pg13/r rating and some of my older coworkers will hop on and encourage the convo. And I just never know how to handle it ya know? Like should I kick up a storm over these topics? It’s one thing to talk about safety(ex do you like this birth control pill vs implant?) But some times they get to into it ya know? Also these conversations are usually over the drive thru headsets.

Do y’all write incident reports about this if y’all see it? Should we talk to our managers about it?

I’m a supervisor and I’m 20, I hang out with some of the 18 year olds as I consider us in the same age group as i was in school with these people at the same time, I’d assume just that it’s fine, is it not?

one of my favorite memories from my time at the bux was definitely when the longest standing shift lead got fired for inappropriate behavior towards partners cuz he was literally having sex in the back between the milk fridges since it was a blind spot to the cameras 🤢

dude was the human equivalent to a cum stain

Yeahh my coworkers hang out with this 16 year old kid. And they're all 21-24
I'm almost 27 so it's very weird to me how close they are because it wasn't that long ago that I was 21-24, and I definitely wouldn't be friends with a 16 year old even then

Edit: oh yeah and two of the girls who hang out with h are shifts lol

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I'm so glad there are no minors at my store.

We had a shift in her 30s regularly hanging out with the high school seniors. Gross. Also had a 25 year old shift wanting to take me on dates when I was 18!

Dude, this is crazy. I’m 32 and feel weird when my 19 year old coworkers want to hang out. Like I want to, but it’s just so weird! I have 9 year old kids and have been married since they were 9.
So I hang out with them right after shift at the store 😂

I’m friends with them on Instagram and all that means is they see pictures of my kids and my running splits. Is that bad somehow

I'm 27 and I basically don't hang out with anyone under 21. It's just weird.

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Two managers got fired shortly before starting my first job (movie theatre) so I was quickly informed of the dangers and have never forgotten. Especially working service jobs there’s always gonna be kids.

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At my store everyone is super close, regardless of age. I kind of like it and everyone respects each other the same. I feel like there are definitely circumstances where it can become weird, but for the most part I’m on the fence? I’m 22 (F) and my coworker is ~32 (F) and we have each other on snap but don’t really communicate. But she also doesn’t act very mature. And it’s not weird at all for me or anyone around me. And that’s just how everyone is at my store. Thinking about it makes me feel weird that the common outlook on this is that it’s wrong and disturbing Bc I can’t view it that way 😅

What’s with this mentality that if someone older speaks to you, they’re automatically a groomer? Such a weird and paranoid thought process to have.

Thanks mom (downvote me sheep)