Starbucks Baristas: The daily grind
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What would you do if a customer was being an ass to you? I’m having problems (self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by anonymousguy256
I am the only person that is working rn and it gets so fucking busy and there’s girls that are laughing at me and making fun of the fact that I have a wet apron. I want to be left alone, I am always nice. I have been a doormat to so many ppl. There are ppl that don’t have enough money and I pay the difference out of my wallet and they will still take everything they can from me. There was this dick today who was paying foreword for a random couple and then he was like “I just love paying it foreword, never know what someone’s going through” to them and then he was a dick to me when I did nothing! And it made me annoyed because like obviously if these ppl were poor or something they wouldn’t be coming to Starbucks to buy expensive ass drinks. It makes me so annoyed. When ppl get mad at me because we are out of refreshers or anything and it’s like, that’s not my responsibility. I am just a worker. Trying to do my job. I am so upset. I keep crying in the bathrooms when I’m at work when it is so busy because this shit always happens. I don’t know what to do. Am I being unreasonable? I keep doubting myself, but I try to be nice to everyone but they keep doing this to me. I know I can’t change them but what can I do to not let it get to me
Lost_Treat_6296 31 points 1y ago
It sounds like the issue is deeper than just a customer being rude.
You hate this job because you don't advocate for yourself. You can quit, but that issue will follow you. You need to gain a voice for yourself.
Whether you quit or not is your choice, but if you think it's strictly the environment that renders you unable to speak out, then you know your answer. If it's something internal, then you know the problem.
It will get to you as long as your advocacy for yourself lies as your weakness. You won't be offended when your voice becomes a strength.
Best of luck man
You hate this job because you don't advocate for yourself. You can quit, but that issue will follow you. You need to gain a voice for yourself.
Whether you quit or not is your choice, but if you think it's strictly the environment that renders you unable to speak out, then you know your answer. If it's something internal, then you know the problem.
It will get to you as long as your advocacy for yourself lies as your weakness. You won't be offended when your voice becomes a strength.
Best of luck man
imlysscining 5 points 1y ago
I agree with this. I work a lot alone (tarbucks) Sometimes I feel like this myself, and when this happens, I let my team and bosses know where I’m at. I can’t go home 90% of the time, but it helps to just let someone know. Let yourself hold space and try to just remember you’re only one person and you can only do so much. Just remember you’re doing your best and you deserve to advocate for yourself! You got this!!
Also, if you have PTO, take a day and use it.
Also, if you have PTO, take a day and use it.
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_circuts 3 points 1y ago
Hey, dont beat yourself up for being where you are. Knowing the deeper issues are really important for this type of thing. You are where you are and thats okay. From here it's kind of an uphill battle of learning how to deal with all the feelings and anxiety and depression etc. Etc. But you got this. You are fully capable of taking care of yourself even if it just involves getting to work when you're scheduled. Just take it minute by minute. I know its all very overwhelming but, you got this. You will find your place and discover whp you are in due time... At minimum you'll figure out who you're not lol.
anonymousguy256 [OP] 2 points 1y ago
:) thank u for the words of encouragement. I appreciate this kind stranger
[deleted] 9 points 1y ago
Therapy and medicine might help hun. I’m a mom and have two daughters. They both had to be on mild meds and therapy and it’s really helped their self esteem. Please seek help 💗💗💗
pacespace 8 points 1y ago
I don’t mean any offense or to be dismissive, but it sounds like you could use some therapy OP.
[deleted] 3 points 1y ago
Please don't ever pay for a customer with your own money, if they don't have enough then they don't have enough it really isn't your problem
blackcatcaptions 3 points 1y ago
I totally feel you homie. Know that you aren't alone, and that these moments too shall pass. Remember, you're dealing with entitled American assholes. It's not personal, they're just dickheads. Keep your head up, and always keep an eye open for something better to pay rent with. Sorry you're having a rough day. Much love comrade
marilisam 2 points 1y ago
There are better jobs for you than Starbucks. It sounds like this is is not a good fit.
mrcupcake18 2 points 1y ago
Yea! Therapy is amazing, I know exactly what you are talking about OP and let me tell you therapy as helped so much. The minute you start working on yourself and trying to understand where everything is coming from you will feel so much better and be able to handle these situations better. Now this is something that takes time so for what you can do now, it sounds super simple but I know it can be easier said than done. Just try to focus on the task you are doing. Block everything else out and always remember when you have bad interactions that seem like for no reason “it has nothing to do with you”. Try to find ways to calm yourself, I do lots of self care when I have a bad day at work and I also use this breathing app on my Apple Watch and it definitely helps! If you want to know more about it or just want to talk please DM me 🥰
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