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My SM lying (self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by mushmushmushmus
okay, so, me and a couple of partners (shifts included) have been having issues with this one partner being aggressive and refusing to do her job for a while. My one shift said that he messaged our SM on what to do a while ago and she said to just “deal with it” basically.
Ive also been out for a while at work and she still misgenders me constantly. i talked to my SM about this and she said that this was the first time she heard of any complaints about her???? I am more inclined to believe my shift over my SM at this point.
One of her solutions was offering us to sit down with eachother to talk it out??? (for context she’s 37 and im 16) and i feel like it shouldnt be my job to try and explain why threatening other partners and misgendering people is wrong.
Am i over reacting?
Ive also been out for a while at work and she still misgenders me constantly. i talked to my SM about this and she said that this was the first time she heard of any complaints about her???? I am more inclined to believe my shift over my SM at this point.
One of her solutions was offering us to sit down with eachother to talk it out??? (for context she’s 37 and im 16) and i feel like it shouldnt be my job to try and explain why threatening other partners and misgendering people is wrong.
Am i over reacting?
badbaristuh 4 points 1y ago
They included pronoun sensitivity in the summer training. I’m not sure if you’re able to review that training for the resources they provide, but it’s definitely not your responsibility to have that conversation. I would escalate to your DM if they will understand or partner resources if not.
Apopheniacal 2 points 1y ago
To add to this comment (because the summer training is an excellent point), your DM's email/phone number should be in the back on a poster, or on the little store cards (if your store has your store manager's info out in the lobby).
I would try to talk to your store manager one more time about this situation, record the date and time, and if nothing gets done, immediately go to your DM about it. That will start a paper trail if things need escalating.
You don't need to be talking to someone twice your age who is already disrespecting you, and will likely get more hostile if you try to address issues like this.
I would try to talk to your store manager one more time about this situation, record the date and time, and if nothing gets done, immediately go to your DM about it. That will start a paper trail if things need escalating.
You don't need to be talking to someone twice your age who is already disrespecting you, and will likely get more hostile if you try to address issues like this.
swampedswirl 3 points 1y ago
That’s…odd. If multiple partners have personally let a SSV or the SM know that a partner is not properly doing their job and being verbally aggressive to them and others, that should be a moment where the SM steps in, no?
mushmushmushmus [OP] 3 points 1y ago
thats what i was thinking… everything about this just feels off for some reason
swampedswirl 5 points 1y ago
My SM would have absolutely stepped in by this point. I know everyone has different management styles, but if they’re consistently misgendering you (whether on purpose or not) it should be addressed immediately either by a SSV or your SM. Yikes.
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