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Starbucks Baristas: The daily grind

Full History - 2022 - 06 - 24 - ID#vk113p
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My Starbucks barista/cashier keeps hitting on my boyfriend (self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by RedOrangeYellowGreen
I don’t want to get her in trouble or anything. I just want it to stop. It’s the closest Starbucks to the house and I’d rather not be inconvenienced with an xtra 30 minutes just because of one girl. But it’s creeping both of us out. At first I thought she was extremely friendly. Then she started messing up our drinks. My boyfriend who is a bit hot headed was convinced she was doing it on purpose. I told him that was ridiculous and that she probably just isn’t hitting the right buttons. (We say sugar but it never says that on the receipt, it just says cream) so I gave her the benefit of the doubt. She has been getting increasingly more and more talkative and talking about his body and his tattoos. It’s creepy. When I was out of town he was going through the drive through and she was there, which is weird cause I’ve never seen her on drive through, but she asked where I was. She then Made some creepy comment about me not being there. She messes up his drink by not putting that he wants sugar and so he goes inside to get some. She gives it to him and makes a huge point about how she’s lonely and has nothing to do after work and then tells him the exact time she’s getting off. It’s creepy and I’m so over it. Again, I do not want her fired I just want the behavior to stop. I’m horrified of talking to her myself because social anxiety. Please tell me if I am over reacting or being sensitive
impasse602 144 points 1y ago
Red flag! Huge red flag! Maybe have your bf say something to her. Like hes not interested or really really flaunt the fact that hes in love with you
djdementia 18 points 1y ago
> hes interested

😈
impasse602 3 points 1y ago
Typo
djdementia -2 points 1y ago
typo or $1? inquiring minds want to know...
impasse602 0 points 1y ago
Freudian slip
Chemical-Less 51 points 1y ago
Just have your bf or yourself talk to her about it. Its not like shes gonna bite. approach it as if it were a miscommunication, and act like she 100% doesnt know he wasnt single. If she keeps at it, then you would be fair to make a complaint. The store should have the sm's contact card somewhere visible, or otherwise available upon request. All you have to do is email and politely let them know one of their partners is making the both of you uncomfortable, tell them what youve told us, and mention that you dont want her to get in trouble, just for it to stop. If she ends up facing any serious disciplinary action, thats probably bc there are more issues behind the scenes

That, or go to dunkin lol
soupy_women 11 points 1y ago
This. Stop giving money to this hellcorporation lmao
uwumoment 4 points 1y ago
or just make your own coffee, you can make coffee that’s 100x better at home
Chemical-Less 2 points 1y ago
Honestly 😭 I cant imagine liking sbux coffee enough to deal with this issue more than once lol
uwumoment 2 points 1y ago
fr it’s so crazy to me thinking about this and the bigger picture, like go ANYWHERE else lol
DesVoeux 36 points 1y ago
I’m surprised no one has suggested just skipping the cashier and mobile ordering.

This really seems like something her coworkers should be noticing and dealing with because it can turn into a big thing. A shift was fired from my store for aggressively hitting on a regular who was clearly uninterested. Bad for everyone; the regular stopped coming, the shift lost her job, the store manager got a black mark on her file, and a bunch of people suffered through the repeated awkwardness.
hungrytiredafraid 3 points 1y ago
That was my first idea as well
duckenjoyer69 34 points 1y ago
Loudly say "here's a tip" then hand her a piece of paper that reads "please stop hitting on my boyfriend" smoke a cig and
nicathor 29 points 1y ago
I totally get the social anxiety part and if confrontation isn't your thing then the subtle (yet obvious) route is from now on when you two go in to order make a point of YOU being the one to order while HE stands back in the lobby out of conversation range but still in the cafe. It'll be uncomfortable for you, but it's probably your best option if you don't want to address it directly or go to a different store.
marilisam 23 points 1y ago
A Mature Relationship is based on a man dealing with this or vice versa. He needs to tell her he’s not interested, straight up. If not he is enjoying it. If the roles were reversed, the she say she isn’t interested as well.
RedOrangeYellowGreen [OP] 11 points 1y ago
Mental illness and social anxiety does exist 💗 but I do agree
Levinem717 3 points 1y ago
Yeh let’s go ahead and reverse the roles here, see how a “man” should deal with this.
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astrenixie 13 points 1y ago
I would say to confront her about it next time it happens. Nothing big. No argument. Just, "that is inappropriate, and you need to stop." That way, you have given her fair warning. If there is any further harassment from her, and there likely will be, you need to file a complaint. If she is harassing customers, she is likely also a huge thorn in the sides of her coworkers. And we *cannot get rid of problem employees* unless enough people *report them*.

Please, please *please* report these people. I worked at a store where it took about half a year to fire a partner who was sexually harassing coworkers and customers. People were too "nice" to file complaints. The store manager had no idea about any of it until I told them, and I am not even a shift manager. Harassment is against policy, and it needs to be reported every. single. time. for anyone to get it fixed.

Edit: typo
Liberalmuffin 10 points 1y ago
honestly ask if you can talk to the manager and say it makes you uncomfy if she doesn’t stop- some ppl just do not get it
florencelovelace 8 points 1y ago
have your boyfriend tell her that he isn’t not interested and if the barista continues report her.
mangopineappljuulpod 6 points 1y ago
as a barista… hold her accountable.
_jer97_- 1 points 1y ago
I agree.
That’s just weird and if she’s continuously making them uncomfortable that’s not okay.
She knows they’re together and she’s over stepping boundaries and doesn’t care.
Definitely hold her accountable. She knows what she’s doing.
Number1Barooista 6 points 1y ago
Call the manager and let them know what's going on
sleepyprincessluna 4 points 1y ago
As a current barista I recommend you just calmly speak with the manager. I can definitely tell you that its affecting more than just you and your boyfriend, as in other customers picking up on the situation and becoming uncomfortable themselves and other baristas who do notice but maybe have a fear of saying something for whatever reason or if they're unsure.
Bottom line is it's inappropriate behavior and who else is she going to harass if you decide to go to another store or he makes it clear he's uninterested? It's not your job to worry if she gets fired or not.
MasterMischievous 3 points 1y ago
I’m gonna go out on a limb here and say that if you did say something to the stores manager (make sure you’re talking to the STORE MANAGER) and brought up her name specifically. She’d be coached to stop harassing you guys, and will most likely not get fired for the first offense. I’m relatively new to Starbucks, but that’s what my perspective is being new.
oooortcloud 2 points 1y ago
A couple solutions that avoid confrontation include ordering on mobile or submitting a customer survey (managers see every single comment) with a summary of you experience.
espressojunkie 1 points 1y ago
Yikes. I recommend mobile ordering instead or talking to the store manager (their business card is usually around somewhere)
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Jaded_Fun_7133 1 points 1y ago
Idk this story sounds weird bc how is this supposed girl on drive window, dto, and able to get a customer who’s in the lobby some sugar
RedOrangeYellowGreen [OP] 1 points 1y ago
I’m not lying lmaoo. What would I earn by lying. It’s a very small Starbucks and the time she was in drive through was the only time she personally gave him more sugar. Every other time we had to go ask another baristas
Jaded_Fun_7133 1 points 1y ago
I’m not saying you’re lying it just doesn’t make sense when we are supposed to planted in 1 spot
RedOrangeYellowGreen [OP] 1 points 1y ago
There was only one time she left where she was supposed to be and I wasn’t there that one time.
rubysky3 1 points 1y ago
(politely) talk to the manager! if they’re fired, chances are this is just the final strike of many and is not on you at all. I’m sure this is making all of her partners uncomfortable but, from personal experience, management doesn’t do anything until a customer expresses discomfort
Noobplzforgive 1 points 1y ago
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