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Anyone else cry internally when they see that one coworker walk in? (self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by canidieyet_
We just had this guy transfer to our store around 2 months ago. At first everyone really liked him, but the more we work w him the more we realize how clingy he tends to get (a LOT of us feel this way). Like, if I take 2 steps he takes 2 steps. And just doesn’t stop talking. I hurt my knee a couple days ago and it was bothering me today. Between that and customers being rude I just…was not in the mood to talk. All I wanted to do was vibe on bar by myself. I even told him such. Apparently he thought that meant “I’ll talk and you can just listen to me talk”??
I used to really like working with this guy. But he needs to always be talking or with someone. As much as I love talking to my friends when I’m working I know when to keep quiet. Like I said, even if you tell him you don’t want to talk he just talks and doesn’t expect you to answer. He will also one-up you on everything. I said I couldn’t so floors the day after I hurt my knee bc it hurt. Apparently that wasn’t good enough of an excuse because he broke *his* knee six years ago. And it’s just, I really don’t care, man.
I’m just so tired and at my social limit for today 🥲 I’m gonna nap now.
I used to really like working with this guy. But he needs to always be talking or with someone. As much as I love talking to my friends when I’m working I know when to keep quiet. Like I said, even if you tell him you don’t want to talk he just talks and doesn’t expect you to answer. He will also one-up you on everything. I said I couldn’t so floors the day after I hurt my knee bc it hurt. Apparently that wasn’t good enough of an excuse because he broke *his* knee six years ago. And it’s just, I really don’t care, man.
I’m just so tired and at my social limit for today 🥲 I’m gonna nap now.
AdIll7946 16 points 1y ago
Lots of people use this job as their social hour. I’d love to give helpful advice but I think that annoying coworker will exist at every job, it’s about learning how to deal with them! I’m sorry this added to such a stressful day for you, take the time you need to rest and maybe talk to your SSV or SM about possible solutions?
canidieyet_ [OP] 9 points 1y ago
yeah every job has *that* coworker but there’s no solution to this guy 😭 regardless of where you put him he WILL find a way to talk your ear off. maybe if he put that energy into customer connections our score would go through the roof
devilsreject4926 3 points 1y ago
Agreed, I try to not talk so much at work but it's the only time I can have any form of human interaction. I don't wanna be that annoying guy so I try to just shut up
AdIll7946 2 points 1y ago
Find the people who love that shit. I’m pretty quiet but there’s definitely people I don’t shut up around. Hopefully you can find some of those!! It’s not your flaw just because someone else may not like it.
heyumsorryitsme 7 points 1y ago
ugh theres two people i just despise at work, and one if them is a ssv so i kind of have to deal with it. its so annoying and i have genuinely fought the urge to go off so many times
chaddybabydaddy28 6 points 1y ago
I have this one coworker that is hell, just goes out of their way to be a nuisance…the point where i knew something had to be seriously wrong with them is when they told our sm they feel partners in the shift were being homophobic… here’s the kicker. When they said that, literally everyone on the floor was gay
mrcupcake18 1 points 1y ago
Tf? Omg deceased! 😂
Pheebers713 1 points 1y ago
That’s fucking hilarious
caitlin_marie_gg 5 points 1y ago
when that coworker at my store was a transfer ssv and he would always put himself on dt bar during peak and would always give people the worst positions
Agreeable-Shock7306 3 points 1y ago
I have a coworker who I feel similarly about but for different reasons. He used to be this fun bubbly guy who was just really peppy and happy. But his girlfriend of 6-8 months broke up with him (6 months ago…) and he’s just been horrible ever since. He talks to me as if I’m trash. Really impatient. Today he took the tongs out of my trainee’s hands while she was bagging a bagel and rudely told her she was doing everything wrong.
mrcupcake18 3 points 1y ago
Oh dude yes, I have two coworkers like that. Like they are cool and all but my god they are too overstimulating. Don’t get me wrong, I’m talkative and social and all the things and I love when people are talkative but like these two say things just to say things to just fill the silence and to also one up you and I’m just like dude! Oh and one of them like cannot sit still and when I’m on bar even if I have only one drink he will try to make it and I’m like TF NO! I had to finally snap at him to get him to stop doing it. Kinda felt bad and apologized for snapping at him, I’m just glad he understood why 😗
canidieyet_ [OP] 5 points 1y ago
Omg yesterday I was getting SLAMMED on cold bar. I realize to everyone else it probably looked like I was drowning, but I had it under control. And then he comes over and just starts making shit. I had to tell him FIVE TIMES to get tf away. He literally poured after because I told him not to help me without asking first, or me asking for help. I know it looks crazy but I promise I know what I’m doing!
mrcupcake18 1 points 1y ago
I am the same way! Like for the love of god at the very least if you are going to step in at least tell me
canidieyet_ [OP] 1 points 1y ago
Omg yesterday I was getting SLAMMED on cold bar. I realize to everyone else it probably looked like I was drowning, but I had it under control. And then he comes over and just starts making shit. I had to tell him FIVE TIMES to get tf away. He literally poured after because I told him not to help me without asking first, or me asking for help. I know it looks crazy but I promise I know what I’m doing!
OkMammon 3 points 1y ago
I can understand how that's frustrating. It sounds like he might be adhd and missing some of the cues. The one-upping is a trait that tends to come from trying to relate but missing the mark.
I have a shift lead that's particularly grumpy. She can't separate her work/private life and takes our her frustrations on us.
I have a shift lead that's particularly grumpy. She can't separate her work/private life and takes our her frustrations on us.
sheep_heavenly 0 points 1y ago
Please don't diagnose people with ADHD based off of "talks too much and isn't socially aware."
OkMammon 0 points 1y ago
Sorry, that is just my own experience. I am completely aware that there are various factors and experiences, but those in my life with the diagnosis all have those same characteristics and is also what I struggle with.
sheep_heavenly 0 points 1y ago
I have severe ADHD, I know others with ADHD, and being overly talkative and unable to recognize social cues is not a commonality in any capacity. It's more likely that you and those you know with ADHD just are more chatty and don't mind others talking a lot.
I'm just urging people to not throw around diagnosable conditions with very strictly controlled treatments as explanations for a single personality trait. I already have to jump through Olympic level hoops to get my meds.
I'm just urging people to not throw around diagnosable conditions with very strictly controlled treatments as explanations for a single personality trait. I already have to jump through Olympic level hoops to get my meds.
OkMammon 0 points 1y ago
Gotcha
sheep_heavenly 2 points 1y ago
My only advice is to just be exceedingly blunt. Like "Jake, I do not want to talk right now." "Jake, I said I didn't want to talk, can we please focus on our jobs?" "Jake, why are you ignoring me when I tell you I don't want to talk? I've asked you twice now, I want to focus on work."
Like don't be mean or inflammatory, but if he pouts? Who gives a fuck. He can pout. He's upset his coworkers are enforcing a frankly pretty mild boundary of "don't talk my ear off at work", he's being unreasonable.
Or for the one-upping: "I don't see how that's relevant." "We aren't competing in who has been hurt worst." "I'm not arguing with you about my injury."
Like don't be mean or inflammatory, but if he pouts? Who gives a fuck. He can pout. He's upset his coworkers are enforcing a frankly pretty mild boundary of "don't talk my ear off at work", he's being unreasonable.
Or for the one-upping: "I don't see how that's relevant." "We aren't competing in who has been hurt worst." "I'm not arguing with you about my injury."
canidieyet_ [OP] 1 points 1y ago
that’s what I was doing 😭after the fifth time my patience was GONE and I wasn’t as nice. I felt awful after but like, damn. I shouldn’t have to tell a grown adult multiple times.
Necessary_Low939 1 points 1y ago
If you yell at him he might take the hint lol.
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