You could've taken that time to connect with your customer. /s

No you did fine. It's creepy when people ask that unprompted, especially to people they don't know.

I would've said

"No, I'm a doppio"

And let him simmer with it

It sounds like your answer was perfect.

As a protective SSV… PLEASE tell your shift if this happens and you’re uncomfy. I’m more that happy to deal with any customers making my baristas uncomfortable.

Ew thats super gross. Not an appropriate question at all! I hope he never comes back. If he does return & has any more weird questions, it is totally fine to respond with "that's inappropriate." Or something to that effect. If its awkward then that is on him. Let it be awkward lol. People like that will push and push boundaries so i like to cut them off asap. I'll keep my tone friendly but stern. I might also ask if the drink is correct just to emphasize that i'm here to answer questions about the items served, not my personal life. Like "that's inappropriate. Did you get your order yet? Is it right? Yes? Ok thank you next." Easier said than done, never hesitate to grab a shift if you don't want to interact.

I looked a man straight in the face and told him that what an inappropriate question and made me uncomfortable.
He looked lost and insecure.
I just walked away. I hate that people make us feel that way and we often think we can’t speak up.
Call out creep people!
I’m so sorry you had to experience that.

Better than me. I would said no thanks

don’t feel like you owe anyone an answer. those are personal questions in your place of work where you should feel safe. you did more than what was acceptable. i would let your shift/sm know so they can be on the lookout

i’ve been hot on too many times and at first i just kinda smiled and laughed but after the recent training i’ve been standing up for my self at the first bad interaction. I say that’s not appropriate, enjoy your coffee in a stern low voice. my shift usually hears and makes sure im ok. stay safe out there!

I pretty often use the phrase "I don't talk about my personal life at work."
I say it politely, but when I have to pull that out I try to be firm and hold to it while they're in the store. And I'd definitely let my ssv know, point out the person just in case they've made other people uncomfortable in the past, so we all have an understanding of the situation.
That being said, I think you handled yourself super well

I wouldve answered saying "no i do quads actually. But just quad cuz milk ruins the espresso"

You did the right thing by not giving personal information and leading the conversation elsewhere. Some people just not even thinking about it give away very personal details and don't realize until after what they've done.

I always deflect when this happens, and push the topic back to the order after doing a fake laugh because creeps are SO funny. /s

This happens to me a lot and honestly you did the right thing. Skirt around the question and if asked say your not looking for a relationship rn and are very against one right now.

Just say you’re a private person and keep it at that. No need to overthink.