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My depression got me written up (self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by itsbayaan
I got written up the other day for my mood. I’ve been struggling with depression for like a month now. Lately I’ve been clocking in and just doing my job while staying quiet. Other baristas have noticed and are always asking why am I so quiet now. Sometimes I just want to clock in and not deal with anybody, even my favorite baristas. I just don’t have the energy right now. Apparently the shifts are complaining about me for having an attitude and now this is worthy of corrective action.
I didn’t mention any of this while talking to my sm but should I? Or is it too late.
I didn’t mention any of this while talking to my sm but should I? Or is it too late.
Zealousideal-Star448 27 points 10m ago
Talk to your sm tell them everything cuz that’s fucked up to write you up for an “attitude”
No_Indication_5205 13 points 10m ago
Do you have benefits that cover therapy and are you comfortable seeking therapy? Starbucks is really big on mental health for its employees or at least they do make the claim to be.
There are resources like Lyra but you can also seek therapy for your depression independently with the use of your benefits assuming they do cover therapy. Some things that help with depression you could do on your breaks to boost your mood even if only a little, listening to music, getting some fresh air, coloring/drawing, reading a few pages of a good book, meditating.. etc.
You're not alone in this, many of us have been there and continually are in a repetitive cycle with the stressy depressys and sometimes its hard to be descriptive of what you're individually experiencing and thats okay.
I would actually have a connect with your SM and let them know that you're going through this (after you've decided on a course of action for yourself) and let them know that you recognize your behavior has made others uncomfortable and let them know that you are feeling it too, that you're doing what you can and know how to do to get yourself into a better headspace. If anything they can provide more resources for you and they should be receptive to hearing you're putting in an effort to benefit not just your team but yourself as well.
There are resources like Lyra but you can also seek therapy for your depression independently with the use of your benefits assuming they do cover therapy. Some things that help with depression you could do on your breaks to boost your mood even if only a little, listening to music, getting some fresh air, coloring/drawing, reading a few pages of a good book, meditating.. etc.
You're not alone in this, many of us have been there and continually are in a repetitive cycle with the stressy depressys and sometimes its hard to be descriptive of what you're individually experiencing and thats okay.
I would actually have a connect with your SM and let them know that you're going through this (after you've decided on a course of action for yourself) and let them know that you recognize your behavior has made others uncomfortable and let them know that you are feeling it too, that you're doing what you can and know how to do to get yourself into a better headspace. If anything they can provide more resources for you and they should be receptive to hearing you're putting in an effort to benefit not just your team but yourself as well.
mrcupcake18 8 points 10m ago
Definitely have a talk with you’re SM and you’re shifts. I know it’s not the easiest thing to do but I also have depression and I also have anxiety as well. While I have been going to therapy outside of the bucks it can still be overwhelming sometimes even with the proper tools (IM LOOKING AT YOU THE PERSON WHO SAID JUST SMILE AND DO YOURE JOB ಠ_ಠ) anyway just be up front and just try you’re best to talk with them and help them understand. I had to do that and while it was a little weird at first, I’m glad I did because now my store really pays attention to mental health even more and are able to recognize it with other partners as well. Also it feels really good to feel supported as well. Also if you ever need someone to talk to my DMs are always open! ❤️
itsbayaan [OP] 2 points 10m ago
Thanks I really appreciate it
mrcupcake18 1 points 10m ago
Of course! I feel like now more than ever mental health is in such a crisis right now it is not even funny. We have to stick together and help eachother out when we can
AkteAkte 6 points 10m ago
Wear a mask (you can blame it on COVID, cold going around, whatever). I can keep my RBF on for my entire shift, and people initiate conversations with you less if you are wearing a mask. Fuck this company for trying to control our emotions.
Necessary_Low939 4 points 10m ago
You should be honest and communicate. I don’t think they should written u up but if u lack communication n ignore them or what not, it comes off as being rude and no team work. I get you’re going through things but as u explain it urself u kinda also don’t talk to ur fav coworkers.
itsbayaan [OP] 8 points 10m ago
I don’t ignore anyone, I’m just not as chatty as I normally am. It’s not like I’m straight up ignoring what my shifts are telling me.
Necessary_Low939 3 points 10m ago
Ok then there’s no reason u should get written up. I think u should let your sm know u have depression. U can chose to go into details if u want but u shouldn’t be written up for it
WorstNarcissist 3 points 10m ago
What did the write up even say? “OP is in a bad mood and I don’t like it.” WTH is wrong with your coworkers?
Old_Specific_1233 1 points 10m ago
talk to your SM, absolutely. because even if you can't produce a smile as much as you want to, they can work with you to try to make accommodations for you, and also i hope the fog lifts for you soon 💚
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Affectionate_Fart -33 points 10m ago
As someone who has a LOT of partners blame mental health, I wouldn’t. In my store people use it as a crutch. “I’m feeling depressed, I don’t want to do bar or ringing, I want to do customer support” and then spend the WHOLE day chit chatting or being on their phone.
I would merely deal with it. Figure out some coping mechanisms in order to help you. Affirmations are a great start, self-compassion, or doing what some people do (like me) and leaving personal at home, putting on a smile and focusing on your job. Lyra is a great benefit if you’ve not been able to use it.
I would merely deal with it. Figure out some coping mechanisms in order to help you. Affirmations are a great start, self-compassion, or doing what some people do (like me) and leaving personal at home, putting on a smile and focusing on your job. Lyra is a great benefit if you’ve not been able to use it.
vareenoo 13 points 10m ago
You sound like corporate
Affectionate_Fart -7 points 10m ago
I’m just a shift who is tired of tip toeing around when my store looks like shit because people would rather text or hang around than do their jobs. I wish they did ecosure again, maybe the stores would look cleaner. Flies buzzing around a business because crumbs are all over the place, drains aren’t effectively cleaned every shift, and “breeding grounds in cabinets” IS NOT OKAY. Ifs DISGUSTING. begging for milk when I’m the only one on bar because I have a three person play, and both partners “don’t wanna do anything because they’re sad”, isn’t okay. Having the shift before me NOT set the alarm and leave the safe open, should not be condoned…but my partners used mental health as a crutch to not do their jobs, leaving my SM and I to clean up the mess. I’m respective of mental health, I used to work in healthcare, but sometimes you have to suck it up and manage. Professionalism is a thing, you should come to work ready to do whatever job you want to do.
Imagine if a doctor said “I’m feeling like crap today, I’m not gonna do a good job” and blew patients off, didn’t do the bare minimum, and perhaps even killed someone, do you think the person’s family would accept mental health as a excuse? Probably not…you have to deal with your situations, however shitty they may be, and focus head on. I have my own mental health problems, but I don’t let it control my life.
Imagine if a doctor said “I’m feeling like crap today, I’m not gonna do a good job” and blew patients off, didn’t do the bare minimum, and perhaps even killed someone, do you think the person’s family would accept mental health as a excuse? Probably not…you have to deal with your situations, however shitty they may be, and focus head on. I have my own mental health problems, but I don’t let it control my life.
vareenoo 2 points 10m ago
Ok so you have different health problems than your baristas, that doesn’t make you the know all of mental health. Violating food safety is not ok so maybe ask your SM to have a collective meeting on cleaning.
I am also going into mental healthcare (edit: you are just in healthcare, not mental health) and I question what position you had to use your previous jobs as a way to promote your knowledge on this. Think of it like a mental illness. Address the core problems rather than the symptoms. If your baristas are struggling mentally and thus are working worse, offer support and set boundaries. Mental health is still health and if you are not providing the correct supports for your baristas, then naturally they will fall.
I am also going into mental healthcare (edit: you are just in healthcare, not mental health) and I question what position you had to use your previous jobs as a way to promote your knowledge on this. Think of it like a mental illness. Address the core problems rather than the symptoms. If your baristas are struggling mentally and thus are working worse, offer support and set boundaries. Mental health is still health and if you are not providing the correct supports for your baristas, then naturally they will fall.
itsbayaan [OP] 11 points 10m ago
I understand that but I never use it as a crutch to not do a certain position. I never ask for accommodations.
Future_Ad9308 8 points 10m ago
Communication is always best regardless of what other people are doing, if you are struggling with your mental health making your SM aware of that will allow them and your shifts to handle it better
Affectionate_Fart -18 points 10m ago
Did not say you did, but acknowledge that there may be that response. The best way to combat mental health is through effective interventions.
gothlene 3 points 10m ago
Ah yes affirmations are gonna help balance the chemicals in my head. Stfu you inconsiderate prick
VentiEggBite 3 points 10m ago
Gee, I wonder why so many of your partners “blame mental health.”
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