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Starbucks Baristas: The daily grind

Full History - 2022 - 08 - 26 - ID#wyo4c1
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Coworker/ manager issues. (self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by Numerous_Neck_2428
I have a co worker who always wants to hug and be close to everyone basically very needy. I personally hate physical touch, which I have expressed. On top of this she is always correcting ever little thing I do wrong, I appreciate the so called “coaching” but it’s so repetitive and I feel like it’s harassment at a certain point. If I don’t answer right away she’ll keep saying my name, or ask the same thing over and over. I could be taking a order and if I don’t answer her right away she gets upset. I expressed to my manager that I was feeling uncomfortable, she said maybe this person doesn’t know this about you. I said about a week ago this person made a joke right in front of her that she knows I hate being touched but she likes to hug me bc she thinks I need it. My manager didn’t say much. I also told her how this same person will throw shady comments if she’s trying to be funny and no one laughs, I will acknowledge the joke but I can’t force a laugh . She thought this was rude, and also rude to let my coworker know when she hugs me and says my name repeatedly it stresses me out .After then she says last week you told me you like being here so what is it your uncomfortable or you like your job. I said I can still like my job despite one person making me feel uncomfortable, but I do have bills to pay so I’ll make the best out of my job. She told me bc I’ve bought issues to her in the past ab coworkers who have all quit, she didn’t want to basically look to much into it. I said okay then im not going to come to you when I’m having issues because I feel you aren’t hearing me out. She told me I will no longer be a shift supervisor if I don’t talk to her about my issues w coworkers .This turned into a convo about how I need to learn to set a welcoming environment and be more open to learning peoples different personalities. Also that I need to be more present. Other coworkers have noticed this specific coworker always on my case or being sarcastic towards me. I’m not sure if I’m genuinely in the wrong or if I should reach out to my dm for more support.
5AV1OR 4 points 10m ago
It’s not only a Starbucks right, employee right, but also a human right to not be touched if you don’t want to be. They need to respect that and if not they don’t need to work at Starbucks. Next time they touch you without your permission I would be overtly direct and tell them “I do not like physical contact. Stop touching me without my permission.” If they do it again go to your DM about it. This is physical harassment. It doesn’t matter if it’s a hug an unwanted hug is weird and violating.
Numerous_Neck_2428 [OP] 3 points 10m ago
Yes this has been going on almost 2 years, I’m beyond sick of telling the same person I hate being touched idc if it’s a hug or a rub on the back it’s weird and cringey to me.
5AV1OR 2 points 10m ago
I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with it for that long I do really think you should contact your DM about it as your SM is being way to dismissive of the whole thing.

One of my coworkers had to deal with this and I will never understand how people don’t understand what “Do not touch me” means. It’s so simple yet some people just don’t get it.
Numerous_Neck_2428 [OP] 2 points 10m ago
After our talk I went up on the floor and was talking to another person. (Not related to what happened) and she comes up on the floor and says if you have anything else to say come in the back and talk but stop gossiping on the floor. I told her we weren’t even talking about her or the situation and she goes okay well stop gossiping and walked away. I found This pretty highly inappropriate
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Flowerfuls 1 points 10m ago
If your SM won’t help escalate to DM or Ethics tbh. We had to ask a partner to refrain from touching too ( but they did right away didn’t push it they’re really nice ). Absolutely unacceptable.
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