There’s this older gentleman that comes in every single day at least 4-5 times (yes consistently every day and that many times a day, we have counted). He can be super cool and funny and we love playing around with him and the banter is usually fun and light hearted but sometimes he makes these misogynistic comments towards the women partners and I’m not going to lie I never said anything because it was always so quick and no one seemed to be bothered by it except for the slightly nervous laugh and would just chop it up to him being old or not that serious like “oh that’s just who he is” type of thing. I have pulled him aside a couple of times and have taken it into my own hands to be like “yo that’s no my cool you can’t be saying that” and he would always say he is just joking and means no harm and I would always tell him I don’t find it funny and that he needs to be more considerate of our feelings and that I am not going to tolerate listening to him put down our women partners anymore and if he continues to do so I will ask him to leave and report him to our GM. Well this happened months ago and he seemed to be ok but the other my day I was sitting in the cafe doing homework on my day off and of course I see him come in. He saw me and he came up to me and made a harmless joke and of course we laughed and it was all good until he said “they don’t know what they are doing here, especially the women they are so slow and dumb”. I like lost my shit and I told him “you can’t be saying things like that! That is disgusting and inappropriate” and he kept saying how he was kidding and he didn’t mean anything by it and I told him I didn’t care and this was going to stop right now. He tried to say he was sorry and I just told him I do not need his apology. I went straight to my manager and told her. Well skip a few days later as I was coming in for my shift my manager told me she had a talk with him and he seemed to be very remorseful and sorry and didn’t realize what he was saying was hurtful. So here is why, because everyone brushes it off, doesn’t say anything and yet complains about him when he leaves. I am so sick and tired of hearing him putting down our women partners and laughing at them and every single one of them have told me that they are over it but don’t say anything because they think saying something will do nothing. Well I’m tired of not doing anything and watching people especially the men not do anything either so I will continue to report him and call him out if he does it again. I’m not going to be nice anymore and we shall see what happens from now on now that he’s been talked to. Ugh I’m so frustrated and even more so that we have let it go on for so long but to be fair that is our own fault but still.