I'm a shift manager, and a queer person. Now earlier in the week, a green bean was lent my hat to wear on the floor because we didn't have a back up hat for them. This hat has a pin that says 'ask me what asexual means', NBD I'm an ace person. My other shift manager came in on their day off, saw the pin on the hat and burst into laughter and pointed. The green bean became embarrassed and turned the hat around, hiding the pin. It's my hat. It's my pin. I watched all this happen. I thought that shift and I were friends. I let the moment pass and didn't say anything. This Friday at close, a day I am not scheduled, partners were messing around putting silly stickers on each other like "I think the pythogram theory is a govt conspiracy", just silly, random stuff. At some point in the evening they thought it'd be funny to put "I ♥️ asexuals" on a sticker, as a joke, and then put it on my locker. Again, I'm not there. No other partner on the floor is asexual. This was done to tease, to call attention to, it's presented as ridiculous and funny. I feel just devastated walking in on Sunday and seeing that. It was left up for days without my knowing. No one told me about it. No one asked about it. Everyone saw it. Apperently one of the baristas on that night told the shift I wouldn't find it funny. Three (3) adults read a joke that feature a protected identity as a PUNCHLINE and thought it was appropriate. I thought these people were my friends. I thought they liked me. I feel sick to my stomach and I keep pausing in my closing shift to catch my breath, I can't tell if I feel like crying or if I'm having a panic attack. The manager responsible for it apologized when I confronted her about it, and the sticker was thrown away. I really don't want to do anything further but if this happened to anyone else on the team I know I'd step in and I don't know if anyone else was hurt seeing that. My identity isn't a joke, but I don't want to be considered a snitch or petty AND there was a legitimate apology. Should I escalate this out of a sense of obligation or can I let it lie? Is this fucked up or am I being sensitive?