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Full History - 2022 - 09 - 26 - ID#xomhpy
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How do you respond to a customer yelling at a partner? (self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by dontcry2022
Rough morning. Customer yelling at a new barista for a mistake wrecked my nervous system because I have anxiety and people angrily yelling is definitely a trigger. Wish I would've told them we can't have yelling in the store. My shift manager wasn't present as they were yelling either
Affectionate_Fart 29 points 9m ago
I shut it down.
I had this happen when someone started yelling at me over procuring a phone (We only have a phone in our back office) and he just started yelling at me about how “you’re a business! You need to let me use a phone god damn if” I said “Well I can’t help you. There’s a fire station down the street, maybe they’d help you.” (I’m not letting anyone in BOH, and they’re not using my phone because I live near a huge homeless pop AND if they call their friend, I can be harassed *as they know where I work AND have my phone number*….
So my initial response was: “Sir, I’m sorry,” *gets yelled at* “Sir. Stop yelling.” *continues to be yelled at* “You need to leave.” *gets told he’s gonna call the cops to arrest me because I’m a business and he needs a phone* “Okay. Fine. I don’t care, you need to leave.” *continues to say he’ll call the cops* “I’m done. Bye.” *walks away and just shakes my head*
(That being said, if I had a phone near the registers, I’d happily allow him to use it. But I reserve the right to not use my own belongings AND it’s not within my job description to be anyone’s chauffeur/wait on them as though I’m their caretaker.
icelessTrash 19 points 9m ago
Call the cops with what phone...
Affectionate_Fart 8 points 9m ago
He said he had his “phone at home” but in the moment I didn’t pick up what he meant. I was just tired of talking to him lmao
Veloci-Tractor 28 points 9m ago
Firmly tell them we do not tolerate anyone being treated as such in our store, partner or customer, and tell them to stop or leave.
lilmissambersue 20 points 9m ago
Yelling in the store at all violates the third place policy because it's disrespectful and disturbing so we have every right to ask them to leave.
star_lost_mortal 13 points 9m ago
Basically you can interrupt the customer, don’t yell but in a unyielding tone tell them you’re getting the supervisor and grab the newbie and disengage. We don’t get paid enough to take yelling. Shifts are paid more and are suppose to handle customer issues unless a manager is there. I’m protective over my baristas so As a shift I’ve just hopped in and gotten the newbie out
Mr_SCPF 9 points 9m ago
Grab your SSV.

I’ll be more than glad to deal with it. I shut that shit down.
dontcry2022 [OP] 5 points 9m ago
come be my shift lmao bc mine told me after the situation when i was telling them about what went down that they didn't hear the yelling :) like do you think i'm bullshitting you or.... and they only really cared that the partner on reg made a mistake, they didn't care that they were berated as a result

the shift did come help de-escalate but it was one of those things where they were in the back for 85% of it and the second they came in from back of house, the customer toned down their voice some. like wow love that the partner got to be berated, i got to hear it and have a bit of an anxiety attack triggered, and the customer gets a free drink!
MrsOceanGrown 3 points 9m ago
I (as a shift) opened one morning and was on my 10 minute break in the back. I came back out to a lady putting her hands over our register (putting a palm to a baristas face) and saying i don’t like how she’s talking to me. Another barista got in the ladies face and said you need to get back because your hand should NOT be in her face right now. I literally was stunned and wanted to back them up and throw hands. But professionally pulled the lady aside and said that’s not the way to handle it from either end. Lady, you also had your hands over our register when i walked in on the situation. I will confront this to my partners and manager but you also need to know that respect goes both ways. She was not happy. I quickly filed an incident report and still have my job
Mandouie 6 points 9m ago
Just be firm , cut them off and tell them they cannot treat partners that way and you will not continue to serve them, if they continue just tell them to leave
proletarithot 4 points 9m ago
I’ve tried to Make the Moment Right with a very stubborn and rude customer. After like 2 minutes of her berating me I turned away, voided her payment, gave her the void receipt, and asked her to come back only if she was ready to act like an adult.

This was early pandemic era. People were wild, but Starbucks was so desperate for workers that I got to match customers’ energy.
dontcry2022 [OP] 3 points 9m ago
Love that. The customer today is a regular who has made many scenes before but somehow hasn't gotten banned. I'd love to confront them
MrsOceanGrown 3 points 9m ago
“Sir/mam there is a way we can communicate with one another and this is not respectful. We’d love to make it right for you, i ask that you speak to us without raising your voice so we can better understand your needs and it maintains the environment and cafe store policies.” Just want to say, this doesn’t just come to my head in the heat of the moment. That’s why roleplays in training modules may seem silly but they’re really important.
overwateredjuice 3 points 9m ago
As a shift I’d shut it down right away. Ain’t nobody yelling at my partners
MrsClaireUnderwood 3 points 9m ago
I like how not only are we supposed to do our normal jobs we're supposed to have minor training in deescalation and therapy to interact with the public. Jfc.
Ok-Interaction2251 2 points 9m ago
As someone who has been in a Shifley position with various companies, I tell everybody that works with me and under me that I have a zero tolerance for any sort of abuse towards employees. I would kindly but very firmly let them know that I do not support their actions and that they are not welcome at the store.
sammieduck69420 2 points 9m ago
I just tell them “we do not allow yelling in our store. You are welcome to stay but if you are disrupting the space, I’ll need to ask you to either leave or stop. I don’t care what happened NOTHING gives you any excuse to behave like this. I will be reasonable if you are reasonable. If you disrupt the space for others, I’ll disrupt your ability to be here, so I’ll tell you again either balance your tone or leave before I call the police and have you removed for disorderly conduct. Your choice”.

If a member of management is present i then go get them, or if it’s just me as a shift I’ll turn away for a second and let them sit with themselves briefly. After 5 seconds max I’ll return and it they’re reasonable I’ll be reasonable but if not, I’ll remind them they are asked to leave for their behaviour. I’m a little unhinged while being grounded in being aware and transparent as to what is happening so when I go off, I have nothing to lose and I *know* I’ve done everything right so far. But at the end of the day, it’s sugar coffee and customers can scream all they want, 99% of them just come from some sort of self problem suffering and can’t or won’t do shot
vertigo00o 1 points 9m ago
i tell them to be respectful if they want the help they need. or to take it up with the helpline for refunds and stuff
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