Starbucks Baristas: The daily grind
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Please tell me if I’m in the wrong here (self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by mrcupcake18
So I just need to know if I’m going crazy or not. So I have anxiety and ADHD and what happens is I tend to hyper focus when we get a lot of orders in DT or if I’m on bar and I’m making a lot of drinks. So my brain is already 4 drinks/orders ahead and already planning out how I’m going to make it all flow and go smooth. Now I do not mind at all when someone comes to help me I really don’t but it freaks me out and messes me up when they jump in and don’t tell me what drink they are working on or if they suddenly start taking an order for me. To be honest not only does it mess me up but it also makes me shut down and triggers my anxiety (thinking I’m doing something wrong, bad thoughts etc) so a few days ago I was killing it on bar and we got busy and then this particular coworker (who is very petty and I swear moves slow on purpose when he’s mad or whatever) jumps in and starts pulling stickers and starts making drinks. I have talked to this coworker so many times about doing this and how it messes me up and to please just let me know if he is going to jump in and help. Now I got frustrated and I feel myself about to be really rude so I asked my shift to please take me off bar and put me somewhere else. I ended up going on my 10 instead and afterwards my shift sits me down and basically tells me that I have to communicate with him to which I reply I have multiple times, and I’ve told our manager as well. I have talked to everyone I work with and I tell them to please do this one thing for me so I can stay focused and I can be of better use and everyone has been super great and supportive about it and I appreciate it. But this one coworker no matter how many times I tell him will not do this. My shift even said to even voice it on the headset so everyone can hear and everyone can see I’m communicating. I’m sorry but I think that was dumb advice because it’s like I am telling you that I am communicating to him directly multiple times and I’ve gotten the manger involved, why do I have to do all this work and go so far as to tell everyone on the headset? Am I crazy? Am I making sense? Please someone tell me because this is seriously annoying
Flowerfuls 6 points 9m ago
As long as you’re telling him HOW he can efficiently help you then you’re communicating just fine imo. I get the same way. But I’ve worked on opening up more bar wise since it’s the only way to keep decent times. It used to stress me out but I’ve slowly worked through it.
But the way you ask people to help isn’t unreasonable. I’m not sure if there’s a way to compromise it either. Some people just don’t sync well on bar together.
But the way you ask people to help isn’t unreasonable. I’m not sure if there’s a way to compromise it either. Some people just don’t sync well on bar together.
mrcupcake18 [OP] 5 points 9m ago
Thank you I feel so validated for real 😭 also what makes it more frustrating is that he is not even on bar with me, he was on DT and I was solo bar
Flowerfuls 1 points 9m ago
We do that. Like if I’m solo bar and mobiles / cafe gets backed up I’ll shift there and my dt person will keep my dt drinks going. I think they need to communicate better but you may benefit from allowing yourself to be more open to assistance. It’s a team effort after all !
mrcupcake18 [OP] 1 points 9m ago
Idk how else to explain it. I don’t mind help, I ask for help, I welcome help but all I have ever asked is if you are going to jump in just let me know what you are helping with so I can shift my focus and I won’t get flustered. Does that make sense? 😰
Flowerfuls 1 points 9m ago
Absolutely. That’s how I am even now haha and I’ve even opened up more to just random help. I think it’s a fair request tbh. As long as that’s the case then you really aren’t in the wrong.
Vegan_Sweetie 3 points 9m ago
The reason they’re asking you to say it on headset, is so that they can have a “witnessed” record of you having said it so they can then take some remedial action for your co-worker who is not listening to you.
WateredDownLemonade 2 points 9m ago
Sounds to me as though you're asking for accomodations (very simple ones), one partner is not respecting this ask, and now you're having to change your own behavior because they're not letting you know that they're "helping."
You're not in the wrong, the partner sounds inconsiderate. Also a little bit of a dick move of your ssv to have you change your behavior before they talk to your coworker about how HIS actions are directly impacting your work and efficiency (which you sound like you want to be!).
You're not crazy! I wish I could offer more advice and/or support. I hope the situation improves ;u;
You're not in the wrong, the partner sounds inconsiderate. Also a little bit of a dick move of your ssv to have you change your behavior before they talk to your coworker about how HIS actions are directly impacting your work and efficiency (which you sound like you want to be!).
You're not crazy! I wish I could offer more advice and/or support. I hope the situation improves ;u;
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