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How do you guys deal with a coworker that doesn’t like you? (self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by whatitdobabyboo22
Responsible_Snow7109 47 points 9m ago
I kno theres 2 girls who dont like me at my store but i truly do not care. Lol all i do is go to work and i do what i gotta do without caring. I just do what i need to do for whatever station im on and interact with them if its necessary and then i go home. I really dont let it bother me by doing that. I just act like theyre just another human being. I dont let their staring or passive aggressive ways get to me either because what they think of me is none of my business. Im guna do me and they can stress and waste their time and hate/dislike me all they want lol
Shreks_dirty_secret 12 points 9m ago
How did you develop this mindset?
Responsible_Snow7109 11 points 9m ago
I just know that it used to bother me more. But then as time went on I just realized that if somebody wants to act passive aggressive towards me or hate or dislike me, that's on them to let me take up so much space in their mind and in their thoughts. And frankly that's their problem. So I didn't want to let the same thing happen to me where they were constantly on my mind whenever I'm at work or at home so I just kind of let it stop bothering me by going to work and doing literally whatever I need to do at whatever station I'm placed at and then be kind to them if communication is needed between our stations and then I would just clock out and go home and forget about them. It just started gradually happening like that. I used to try to want to be so liked by coworkers but I really don't care anymore because they can feel however they want about me and act passive aggressive if they want to but as long as they're respectful or neutral towards me at work then we're fine but if they flat out are rude to me, then nope lol
whatitdobabyboo22 [OP] 4 points 9m ago
It’s uncomfortable to work with a group of people who only talk to one another…
I do like this mindset though & I somewhat follow it too. I don’t care, but part of me does cus it makes me question myself. It just sucks being around that energy, but I’ll be okay. I’m gonna speak up about it. I’m tireddddddd
Responsible_Snow7109 2 points 9m ago
No I totally get it because it still is uncomfortable to work around people like that. Like I don't let it stay in my head and I don't harp on it or think about it when I'm at home or even when I'm at work. But I understand what you mean when you say it's uncomfortable to work around people that only talk to each other and not you. People do that all the time at my work and they never talk to me and I don't care cuz I'm a quiet person anyway but if you talk to me I'll talk to you but I'm just not much of a conversation starter. But I just came to terms with the fact that they're going to be there sometimes at the same time as me and we're both there for one thing so I'm not going to let anything else hinder that or make me upset because I'm not going there for that. I'm going there to get paid and not to think or care about what others think of me
Alternative_Exam3723 2 points 9m ago
I love saying “what people say behind my back is none of my business” when my coworkers say “well so and so said “😂😂
Responsible_Snow7109 2 points 9m ago
Yepp lol aint none of our business what negative people think about us! That's their business if they wana spend/waste their time thinking negatively about me😁 im guna do me and go home!
Alternative_Exam3723 2 points 9m ago
I have my own negativity to worry about 😂
Responsible_Snow7109 2 points 9m ago
Lmao that is real. Same here😄
lilmissambersue 17 points 9m ago
I pretend like I don't know that they dislike me and am very cordial. I say hello and how are you today? But I don't engage much past that. I just ignore them the rest of the time.
The last time it happened to me I asked to move to different days to avoid working with them as much as possible.

One time I actually approached a coworker and told them I felt that they disliked me. They were shocked and said that they actually did like me but thought I didn't like them. Lol! We didn't become besties as we didnt have too much in common, but it helped make things waaaaaaay less uncomfortable and we could be friendly at work.
whatitdobabyboo22 [OP] 3 points 9m ago
Mhm… yeah I’m the same way, but even the “how are you doing today” is getting old for me & feels forced. If I don’t greet or say how are you, they won’t do it. I used to go out of my way to talk, but once I understood they don’t like me I stopped. I know it’s life to dislike & be disliked, but maybe I’m just having a hard time accepting that
whatitdobabyboo22 [OP] 2 points 9m ago
I’m gonna speak up about it too because I’m so tired of working a shift with them & feeling the same way each time. I never seem to find a good moment to approach it though since were so busy & there’s always other coworkers around.
I’m also considering asking to not be scheduled with them… I didn’t think of that ha.
anxiouspeony 2 points 9m ago
You shouldn’t have to be uncomfortable at work. It’s expected as basic professionalism in the workplace to be cordial, this isn’t highschool. I would talk to a shift supervisor about the behavior or even the store manager. It’s creating a bad environment, it needs to stop. I’m so sorry this is happening to you!
whatitdobabyboo22 [OP] 1 points 9m ago
This is very reassuring, thank you ❤️
bumpymishap 7 points 9m ago
I have a few that I can tell don’t like me too much but I’m not overly fond of them either so I don’t mind. At the end of the day I’m there to do my job and if I happen to have friends/people I like on shift that’s great and if not it’s whatever as long as it doesn’t interfere with what I need to do. For the people that don’t like me I’ll still be respectful but I won’t go out of my way to do favours for them
whatitdobabyboo22 [OP] 1 points 9m ago
I agree with that first sentence! It’s life. We’re not for everybody & that’s okay. It’s just uncomfortable for me. I definitely feel better when there’s people scheduled that I get along with. I’m okay with silence too, but that’s also uncomfortable for an entire shift. Maybe I just need to venture elsewhere
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sten45 4 points 9m ago
Lean in to it
whatitdobabyboo22 [OP] 2 points 9m ago
🔥
wok3less 3 points 9m ago
best advice i can give is that none of you have to like eachother, but you cant let it affect work. that obviously goes both way and gets difficult when they dont have that mindset. but just be polite and dont go out of your way to be friends. its hard for me too
sashiyaki 2 points 9m ago
Go on about your shift and don’t think too deep into it. Maybe they don’t dislike you, sometimes overthinking can be the worst!
Alternative_Exam3723 2 points 9m ago
Kill them with kindness. At the end of the day they are people who don’t matter in your outside life. I don’t get paid enough to care anymore😂
fruit_enjoyer 2 points 9m ago
It’s whatever. If i hate a coworker or if a coworker hates me, of course we wont be friendly with each other or chat on breaks or whatever, but I won’t let if affect the job i’m paid to do. So long as they arent like, actively harassing and insulting you, i say ignore it
Mhill0823 2 points 9m ago
I just ignore the person who doesn’t like me. Best I can tell, she just has a horrible personality. I act like she doesn’t exist, luckily I rarely work with her though and that helps!
Traditional-Emu-1403 2 points 9m ago
Just work and don’t pay attention to it. I’m there for a check, not a bestie, so who cares?
DustbinFunkbndr 2 points 9m ago
Ignore it. Doesn’t matter. Just show up, work, and go home.
yunggreat 2 points 9m ago
Literally just don't care. I don't want to be friends with my coworkers lol. I come here to work and get paid. I'm generally well liked (at least I think I am lol) but there's so many cliques at my store that I'm not in. I don't get paid enough to care honestly. As long as it isn't affecting your ability work..ignore it.

If it becomes an issue to the point of harassment, report them and if you're not listened to, leave. No minimum wage job is worth your sanity/mental health.
kittykattt3 2 points 9m ago
I just don’t care or give a fuck honestly. I’m not at work to make friends, I’m at work to do my job and get paid so I can support myself and pay my bills 🤷🏻‍♀️
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Depends on what they're doing. If it's small shit/shady comments the easiest way for me to deal is to decide I'm not paid enough to give a fuck. If it becomes unnecessary throw the shade back at them. If they can't handle that keep doing it till they tell the manager and the manager asks you about it, but choose your words carefully. Keep a detailed record of how they've been inappropriate at work w you and when you're asked about it, list everything off, stating that you were only trying to work things out with them directly, as Starbucks policy states.
Edit: keep in mind this isn't worth it for small shit I did this before because certain shift leads were being outright abusive.
misryth 2 points 9m ago
The one that doesn’t like me is usually very rude to me and makes me aware that she thinks nothing off me and sees me as below her. So I just talked to my SM and changed my availability to avoid her. 🙃
spicedtear 2 points 9m ago
I just learned to not give a fck. It’s hard but at the end of the day you are there to collect your 💰nothing more. do ya thing get ya paycheck get out go home
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Torirock10 1 points 9m ago
ignore them to the best of ur ability tbh
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