Are you friends with your partners?(self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by CoffeeChesirecat
Just wondering if you all befriend coworkers, or keep a respectful working relationship and separate your work life from personal.
My store used to be so close, but recently, about half of the people I work with turned on some partners, including me, all over a rumor/lie. I don't want to get into details, but this is your word of caution about keeping friends in the workplace. It's been a rough time, and if I could go back, I would have done a better job at not getting close to people.
Socko-The-Sock19 points9m ago
No we don't talk anymore which I don't mind, but hey it's like making friends in school classes. They'll come and go and were great at the time. I did learn they all hung out after work without me and I was left out of the work group chat until I had not-so-subtly said I wanted in so that kinda hurt.
CoffeeChesirecat [OP]5 points9m ago
I'm sorry that happened to you. That stuff hurts. My coworkers were just making plans right in front of me right before everything hit the fan. I don't know if it was intentional or not, but the day of the plans happened to be my birthday. We all find our people eventually <3
W0lf_20207 points9m ago
I’m close friends with a few of my coworkers but we don’t gossip or try to spread drama. Even if we weren’t friends we have a civil relationship and would be able to work together. The people that I know are a little more drama, I just talk to only at work and keep it like that
Routine_Support_74586 points9m ago
be friends with co workers who respect you and boundaries and also can joke around with. you see if it’s only because you’re co workers or if you guys have a genuine connection as friends. don’t befriend people who are drama and make gossip. befriend who you actually enjoy being around with
CoffeeChesirecat [OP]2 points8m ago
Very sound advice!
floofxs25 points9m ago
Both stores I had a good bond with my partners. I don’t think I would’ve been able to do it otherwise.
inkstaens5 points9m ago
all my coworkers hang out without me. they all make party plans in front of me. some of them call me their friend but, never invited. its really frustrating bc if i mention it they go "noo we all barely hang out! i dont talk to anyone outside work tbh just one or two people! i honestly dont like working with friends it's annoying ://"
CoffeeChesirecat [OP]3 points8m ago
That's where I'm at too :-/
Unionizestarbucks_5 points9m ago
Some of my coworkers bullied me for months when I started. I just didn't take it personally, kept a good attitude, and continued treating them like they were my friends no matter how rude they were, and they eventually stopped and became my friends
CoffeeChesirecat [OP]4 points8m ago
Sounds like you were the bigger person, and they fixed their behavior. I've seen that happen before. Sometimes people, especially in groups, aren't great about letting new people in. Glad it worked out!
spookyboi134 points9m ago
yeah, i met a few of my close friends through the bucks. mostly because we all work the same shifts a lot of the time and have a lot in common. i definitely think it can lead to drama which i've experienced but ultimately its been a positive imo
hauxbi4 points9m ago
we’re definitely friends in the sense that we hang out outside of work, there’s like 17 people at our store but we always invite as many as we can. we don’t hang out TOO often and when we do it’s to go out for brunch or coffee, we mostly talk about work/customers or just our likes and hobbies! it’s hard to explain because we all like eachother and hang out outside of work as a group, quite a few of us knew eachother before we started working together too so the friendship was there first. however, the hang outs are always as a group and never one on one or anything. we definitely keep it fun and appropriate and none of us gossip or talk about much of our personal lives in too much detail to help keep that separation.
irritablegarlic3 points9m ago
i’m friends with people I work most with and get along with. if we don’t work often idk them very well, and some people I don’t click with or are rude 🤷🏻♀️ it’s like school, you’ll like some classmates and not others. maybe I wouldn’t befriend so many coworkers if I had more friends outside of work but I haven’t really met people I liked as much as my coworkers at this job. i’m also still friends with some old coworkers too.
nicoolspams3 points9m ago
I’ve met some amazing friends through working at starbs and years later we are still friends, it really just depends on the person.
Lcolecrochet3 points9m ago
It’s so weird how dynamics differ from store to store. I had one where we literally ALL were friends. Like one big family. Everyone had a special nickname and everything (Me and my work bestie, both SSVs, were Mom and Dad to everyone else but I was Sir to him and he was my Princess 😂) we would hang out outside of work, even threw a few parties. And then when I transferred to a new store l, everyone was divided into cliques and it made maintaining an overall positive morale amongst the partners difficult. I always have the mentality of work first, friends second, but after having the positive experience of literally feeling like family, having to deal with such division was a shock.
CoffeeChesirecat [OP]3 points8m ago
Oh, wow, this sounds like my experience minus transferring. We all had fun nicknames too, and now it's all cliques and division. I'm getting over the shock and figuring out how to move on.
Lcolecrochet2 points8m ago
It’s really a strange feeling. It’s like when one of your friend groups breaks up but you still run into them regularly.
CoffeeChesirecat [OP]2 points8m ago
Yes, exactly. It's extra awkward since some if the fall out includes multiple ssvs who all have to work together closely.
Perfect-Leadership582 points8m ago
i wouldn’t consider my coworkers to be real friends, we’re work friends, so we follow each other on SOME socials (the less personal ones) and i don’t hang out w any of them outside of work, although they make plans sometimes. a few of the partners were friends before they were hired too
ardentAmbivalence2 points8m ago
I am primarily a closer, and because of that, I tend to work with the same people over and over. I try to be friendly to everyone but there is a lot of tension between some of my coworkers and other people in the store, including myself. The openers and closers kinda hate each other in general, and in both shifts there are people who cause a lot of conflict. Most of my store seems to hate each other at this point tbh lmao there's a ridiculous amount of drama. I only have one coworker I'd consider to be a close friend. It's hard to trust people in my store because you have to consider whether someone is going to try to screw you over. I don't really want to be friends with people like that lol.
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