creepy customer who makes all the girl baristas uncomfortable just tipped us $100(self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by Wspitsamanda
this guy comes in constantly and the last few times, he has made borderline inappropriate comments towards me. things like :
“i’m just enjoying the view” when i asked him if he needed anything (while hardcore STARING at me), or things like
*sees me while someone else is taking his order* oh shoot i just forgot what i was gonna order.. fuck what’s it called? she knows. (gesturing at me) sorry, i saw you and lost all my words. that’s a compliment, you know?”
well today, he ordered a doppio con panna ($4.05 at my store) and paid with an $100. i tried to give him his change and he told me to keep it. all $95.95 of his change. he said something about “maybe you’ll make it up to me next time”
i’m genuinely not sure what to do here, he’s not blatantly asking me out, but everyone in the store tells me to hide when he comes in, and say they get uncomfortable watching him interact/stare at me.
Thoughts?
EDIT: i thought this was funny- told one of my baristas about the man because she’s never seen his advances and she said “why is everyone at this store going feral over you?” because shortly after the incident, several more customers that have made advances toward me came in. this includes but is not limited to:
- an old man who called me “Linda mia” before walking out
- a man who is 2 steps away from getting banned because of advances he’s made toward other coworkers of mine
and there have been incidents before today, such as :
- a DPI driver who asked me out around 2 months ago
- a man who, around a month ago, came to starbucks for the first time (just immigrated from another country) and insinuated that he wanted to spend more time with me outside of work
EDIT 2: it should also be noted that after the creepy $100 guy makes his remarks, he always sits and stares at me behind the bar as i do my tasks for around 10-20 minutes before he leaves. everyone has noticed it.
chinksauces31 points8m ago
that’s creepy, and gives like lonely sad old man vibes
report and get him banned
linseeded19 points8m ago
Make it up to him?!?!?! What in the name of 50 shades of sus??? He’s tryna buy something you ain’t selling with that tip. Every time he says ANYTHING do an incident report and use his full name (or just first if that’s all you’ve got.) If you get enough incident reports of him acting inappropriate you can get him banned legally from the store.
(But seriously you know all those true crime “and then he followed her home and killed her for not going out with him” stories? That’s what this sounds like the beginning of…. Be safe dude this type of action isn’t something to take lightly. I know multiple people who have had terrifying stalkers that started at work.)
GhostfaceJK10 points8m ago
get him banned! and definitely if you see him before he sees you, get someone else to take his order and wait till he leaves. sorry you have to deal w that !!
Responsible_Snow71097 points8m ago
"Maybe you'll make it up to me next time"...??? Eww so its like is he guna come in at some other point and expect u to accept his advances or creepy words and get mad if u dont because the huge tip he gave? I would definitely document what all he has said and get them in an incident report and hopefully u can get his ass hat self banned
testingaurora6 points8m ago
Predatory. Thinks he can buy what he wants . Fuck this guy. Don’t let him get what he wants and if you feel comfortable tell him he’s making you uncomfortable when he says those things. Or sound the fire alarm and scream METOO METOO METOO METOO
icelessTrash5 points8m ago
Be cool and unemotional as possible, and do not feel the need to be polite or kind. Answer with things like " no thank you" "that's not funny/appropriate" "that's weird/upsetting/unacceptable" etc.
Also, a manager might be willing to pull him aside and tell him to refrain from the comments/focusing on you, or ban him. you should not have to endure that kind of escalating harassment. you aren't a plaything and it should be shut down.
Apprehensive_Flow2195 points8m ago
next time he says ANYTHING out of line you (or any ssv, not sure if you are one or not) can follow the provided internal script and tell him that his behavior is inappropriate and will not be tolerated and he will be asked to leave, however he is welcome to come back another day with better behavior. there is absolutely no reason why you should have to tolerate being uncomfortable in any capacity and this individual has very clearly crossed the line. i’m sorry you have to deal with this behavior, and i hope there is someone on your team that is ready and able to support you.
i’ve had a lot of incidents at my store and our manager created a “lobby support” position that we can ask for if we every feel uncomfortable with a customer so someone can discretely assess the situation and help. i recommend you connect with your team and create a solution and a plan for the next time he comes in.
lots of luck to you and your team!!
Mr-Yoop6 points8m ago
I wouldn’t even give him the benefit of telling him to come back with better behavior. I think he should just fuck himself and never come back.
Apprehensive_Flow2191 points8m ago
personally i agree. in case it escalates, it might be best to be able to say, “look, we followed procedure and he was given the opportunity to change”, but i’m also not there and i’ve never met him. there have certainly been customers that i’ve banned without giving a second chance, so it’s dependent on nuances that i can’t see without being there myself. truly he sounds like a nasty man and there should be 0 tolerance for him.
cecicoot4 points8m ago
I’m cringing 😬 Document everything. Get eyewitness accounts from your coworkers. And idk if this is just how we did things at my old store but we’d never accept anything bigger than $20 for an order if it’s only one drink. I was trained to never clear out my drawer for a single order. Make him feel uncomfortable and awkward and ask for a smaller bill or for him to pay with card.
Ok_Lemon_71592 points8m ago
ban ban ban this is his way of testing how much he can get away with I would nip it in the bud ASAP
Vegan_Sweetie2 points8m ago
This is why I’m happy to be ugly 🥺
Stay safe. 🥺
Veloci-Tractor2 points8m ago
all these people like get him banned
this dumbass just gave yall $100. milk this stupid man for all he is worth. next time he's in like, give him the tiniest bit of extra milk or some shit and say that was for the tip lmao. rub it in his face.
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