update: I’ve texted my SM and i hope to get a response soon 👍

Try also to limit your schedule so you don’t work with her. But yes tell the SM and it’s going to be a wake up call to the immature 17 year old about what is and isn’t appropriate on the floor. Make it clear!!! Ask the SM to print out what sexual harassment is and put it up on the board. Or suggest retraining for her because your goal is educating her and you wish for her position not to be jeopardized. After she’s aware of it though, and continues, then it’s not on you. Everyone needs to take responsibility for their own choices.

>should I tell my SM??

Yes

Yeah i understand not wanting to get her fired or transferred etc, but this is also textbook sexual harassment. Perhaps you could convince the SM to let her off with a warning?

It's harassment. You need to talk to your SM.

Document your interactions with her and file incident reports. Start creating a paper trail. Document your meeting with your SM and any follow-up. Seriously though, file incident reports.

You should file a digital incident report form (dirf) on the iPad everytime she says something. The message sends to your SM and DM and they will understand the severity and seriousness from those

I’m using my throwaway account for this one.

TW: sexual topics

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My bf and I work at the same store. We have for about 6-ish months now. Before we worked together, there was a minor who worked there. This minor was fired just a month before I was hired on. I’ll continue to refer to them as “the minor” for clarification. Also, there are some details I’ve forgotten, and these experiences may be out of order.

For context, this minor was gay and has ADHD. (I add the ADHD part just in case some things can be explained as just not understanding.) The age difference was about 5 years — teenage minor and adults in their 20s. This story occurs over the course of about 8-ish months.

It started off as him just being friendly, I guess? I have ADHD too, so I never really noticed most things because I can be very inattentive. Anyways, it escalated pretty quickly, and I immediately became super upset/triggered by his actions due to past traumatic experiences.

There was a night when I was waiting for my bf to get off of work like normal. Well, then, this minor walked in “coincidentally” (?) just before my bf got off. I didn’t think much of it. The minor came over and chatted with me for a little bit. I don’t think I even remember the minor getting anything? When my bf got off, he sat down across from me. That’s when the minor asks me how I would want my bf to initiate sex with me. I sit there completely stunned and speechless because I have only ever had one conversation with him, and it was months prior to this. My bf (I wish I’d stopped him) answers, and then the minor goes on to explain how he would want someone to initiate things with him. I was dumbfounded.

Then, there was another time that the minor was at work, and they were short a person. The SSV went to the back to call my bf to see if he’d come in, and the minor followed the SSV back there to listen to the convo and kept asking them if my bf was coming in.

This minor would also ask SSVs over and over again for my bf’s phone number, and his only excuse for needing it was, “I just need to talk to him.” The minor actually got my bf’s phone number, but it was not from my bf or the SSVs, and definitely not the manager.

There was another time the minor asked another adult (20s) coworker what it was like to suck, you know.

There was also a time when he went to one of the SSV and asked them what it means if they “had a dream that they sucked their crush’s [body part].”

There was also a time too when this minor wanted my bf to meet up with him outside of work for something, so I came along because absolutely not, right? Well, we get there, and the look of pure anger when this minor sees me is one I’ll never forget.

I emailed the DM as customer, and he was fired pretty much immediately. The minor will actually come into Starbucks every now and then still, and to my knowledge, I think they’re trying to get their job back there.

I feel bad, and at the same time, I don’t. His behavior was highly inappropriate, whether he had been improving or not. Actions have consequences, and people need to understand that.

Bottom line, tell your SM.

Absolutely tell your SM. At this point, especially since you have asked her to stop multiple times, this is harassment.

I’ve had something similar to this happen to me before too.

Yeah, absolutely. Reach out to an SSV you trust as well, ask them to show you the online incident reporting system, and make sure to report this as well. The incident report goes past your district managers straight to head office, and they will look into it. Your SM could choose to take no action and if it’s not documented, then you have no ability to complain about it.

At the end of the day, you want this documented so that you can ask for changes to your schedule, or a transfer, because of this coworker. No one should feel like that at work

Yes and try to have a witness speak up for you as well to your SM, example "I notice X is still flirting with OP after she told her multiple times she wasn't interested"

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