Starbucks Baristas: The daily grind
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How do you deal with a shift that doesn’t like you? (self.starbucksbaristas)
submitted by linseeded
I’ve probably done something wrong but idk what it is - but a shift at work specifically ONLY dislikes me. She makes it well know in a very subtle way; she only coaches me (a lot) and gets very short or sharp with me. Every person (literally every person - I’ve asked around) who works with us sees this. I don’t talk back, I don’t mess up consistently. The only thing I can think of that could’ve set her off is that I have a medical issue happening that made me text her before work to see if she could put me in a planted position one time - to which she called me and told me she needs an able bodied worker or no worker at all. Besides for that, I haven’t DONE anything out of the norm for baristas. I’ve asked other shifts if I’m doing something wrong .. they all say I’m an enjoyable partner, and that I’m good at my job. I eventually confronted the shift in question and she told me “I act this way with you because you need more coaching, and I’ve been stressed recently and feel like I can show it around you and drop my happy mask, which I can’t do with others”. Among other things. 😐 But she essentially said “I love you and love working with you, sorry you feel this way but it’s not true!”. I’m considering talking to my ASM because nothing has changed since the talk except she periodically makes “small talk” with me in addition to ignoring me, talking over me, giving me the worst tasks, and micro aggressions such as giving me a lunch 1 hr before I leave or “forgetting” I’m in a position or “forgetting” my ten. But I’m worried about talking to my ASM because she’s been talking about me to him already and saying I have an attitude problem - which idefk maybe I do, but NOBODY ELSE I WORK WITH HAS TOLD ME THIS! And she hasn’t even told me I have an attitude to my face so I don’t know! It’s really frustrating and upsetting because I’ve never done anything to her except one time ask to not have to run around because of my chronic illness. How do I deal with this???? I have to work with her a lot and I’ve just been trying to stay in my lane and out of her way because this is actually hell at this point.
Asil228 15 points 8m ago
You are being bullied. Period. You talked to her once and it’s time to talk to her again. Recurs the conversation on your phone. Let her know this is not acceptable. Better yet , include ASM.
Don’t accept her behavior and treatment.
Don’t accept her behavior and treatment.
linseeded [OP] 2 points 8m ago
She’s like been talking a lot about me I guess (according to another shift) to our ASM so I’m worried things won’t go well for me - it’s he said/she said at this point and I’m concerned I’ll be seen as less reputable bc she’s been with the store 3+ years while I’ve only been transferred for like 4 months. But then again I’ve asked a couple partners if they’d advocate for me if asked about how she treats me and they all said yes. ;_; I just hate this. I just wanna make coffee and talk to people and make more coffee then call it a day, not have a nearly 30 year old woman act like a teenager to me.
Asil228 3 points 8m ago
You SHOULD Able able to do just that. Make coffee and go home stress free.
Seriously, put your phone in your pocket and record her behavior. Being bullied by someone
with authority is even worse. Being bullied by a grown adult woman in your work place is truly not acceptable ( actually it’s never acceptable)
She is talking absolute lies about you and you need to take a stand and advocate for
Yourself. Trust me, you must always do this
As you can’t count on coworkers/ friends as they have something to lose and in the end, may not do the right thing and stay silent to protect THEMSELVES just as you should protect yourself.
You most likely have done nothing , she is most likely choosing you to pick on as she sees she can.
That personality type goes for those who won’t stand up For themselves. You may be prettier, smarter , nicer , liked better than her. Bottom line, she is most likely threatened by you in some way.
There are dozens of coffee shops out there, don’t be miserable , life is to short.
I do commend you for talking to her once, keep exerting that confidence and keep your head high.
Seriously think about talking to the ASM and if that doesn’t go well you are employable go find a darling shop to work at!
Seriously, put your phone in your pocket and record her behavior. Being bullied by someone
with authority is even worse. Being bullied by a grown adult woman in your work place is truly not acceptable ( actually it’s never acceptable)
She is talking absolute lies about you and you need to take a stand and advocate for
Yourself. Trust me, you must always do this
As you can’t count on coworkers/ friends as they have something to lose and in the end, may not do the right thing and stay silent to protect THEMSELVES just as you should protect yourself.
You most likely have done nothing , she is most likely choosing you to pick on as she sees she can.
That personality type goes for those who won’t stand up For themselves. You may be prettier, smarter , nicer , liked better than her. Bottom line, she is most likely threatened by you in some way.
There are dozens of coffee shops out there, don’t be miserable , life is to short.
I do commend you for talking to her once, keep exerting that confidence and keep your head high.
Seriously think about talking to the ASM and if that doesn’t go well you are employable go find a darling shop to work at!
Downtown_Asparagus71 7 points 8m ago
They are a bully. You are their current target.
Tell your SM you won’t work with them anymore.
I was a target for a spell. My SM did nada. Then I figured out how to restrict my hours to specific avoid her or greatly limit my exposure.
(She works Sundays - I work Saturday w Sunday blocked). I warn all I train about her.
Yes. She needs to go and someday when I don’t need the work I will stand up and say “you are an awful human and certainly no Godly as you claim to be”
Tell your SM you won’t work with them anymore.
I was a target for a spell. My SM did nada. Then I figured out how to restrict my hours to specific avoid her or greatly limit my exposure.
(She works Sundays - I work Saturday w Sunday blocked). I warn all I train about her.
Yes. She needs to go and someday when I don’t need the work I will stand up and say “you are an awful human and certainly no Godly as you claim to be”
smurfette_123 1 points 8m ago
The text she sent you could get her fired. If that’s the goal, show it to your manager or email it to them and CC your DM so they have no choice but to do something about it. It’s straight up ableism and I would bet that Starbucks isn’t about to risk a lawsuit.
linseeded [OP] 1 points 8m ago
No so she DIDNT send a text because it would “come off as mean”. (Her words). She called me rather than texting me back
smurfette_123 1 points 8m ago
In that case, I would keep all interactions with your ASM and SM through email and CC the DM that way they can’t avoid doing something about it. If someone is making you feel unwelcome at work it’s not on you it’s on them.
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