I’m sorry that never should have happened. Regardless if you are on the spectrum or not, your mental health is your own private business. If you had a discussion with an SM about it and gave consent for that information to be shared that would be one thing. I’m on the spectrum and I had to be upfront with my SM about certain accommodations (like wearing a noise filtering earbud underneath the headset so I don’t get triggered by my audio processing/sensitivity issues among other things). I gave permission for these things to be shared with any SSV I might be working with to avoid confusion.

Making comments behind your back and laughing? That is not okay. Reporting them was the right thing to do. The job is already stressful enough for people (neurodivergent or not) and making those types of comments, especially from a position of authority, can be a very isolating experience for those being spoken of. At the very least it speaks poorly of their leadership ability, especially when the “company culture” they’re supposed to be upholding is one of acceptance.

I also know getting diagnosed in adulthood is an exercise in frustration, but even if it takes a while there are still things in the meantime you can do to help. In my experience with it diagnosis was simply putting a name to something that had always been there. It just gave me the framework I needed to ask questions and have conversations about how my brain worked. If you find the ASD symptoms that click with your own experience you can always find information online (or with your therapist) of how to cope with them. With or without an official diagnosis. Honestly so much of navigating ASD is trial and error since everyone experiences it a little differently. But you’ve got this!

I hope everything turns out well!

SBUX is mad discriminatory. They talk a lot, that's about it.